You know, it just might be. It just might be a little sarcasm sliping into the edges of my speech.
Well, if I knew what the problem was, I would have fixed it already.
I’m proably not coming off as confident enough. I can’t imagine why. Two and a half decades of listening to how horrible my female friends mates are, while being rejected myself (and thus, by implication, being worse than horrible) coudn’t have anything to do with it, I’m sure.
Well, can’t speak for all guys. They do me, though. As for why, you’d have to ask them. Maybe they’ll tell you, they won’t give me a straight answer. My personal hygene is good, and I don’t think I’m THAT ugly. They, of course, always wonder why I’m single. Though they could just be humoring me, of course. But women seem to genuinly enjoy my company, as a friend, of course. God, I’m starting to hate that word.
While I only ask out women I find attractive, the women I find attractive are often not “beautiful” in the standard sense. And my attraction’s not always physically based Intelligence, compassion, humor, and high levels of perversion all get my interest up.
I don’t see a problem with that. I’m not going to feign interest in someone I find repulsive, personality wise or physicaly, that would be deceptive and insulting. And I woudn’t want a woman who was feigning interest in me, either out of pity or because she was trying to use me. Unless she was using me sexually, of course. I could live with that, tragic as it would be.
Last woman I was signifigantly attracted to, a day or two ago, was about thirty pounds overweight, thick glasses, and frizzy hair. (To be fair, it was very humid) She also had beautiful, kissable hands and a very nice, amused sort of half-smile. Then her husband/boyfreind picked her up. Damn.
I’ve known a lot of “nice guys,” (I play RPGs and am an anime/scifi fan, for Zomel Gustav’s sake) and I’ve rarely if ever seen that behavior pattern in them. So I get a bit irritated when it comes up, because it always comes up.
It’s the female equivelent of “women stay with abusers because they like the abuse.” Both of them apply all the blame to, and assume the very worst of, the other gender.
It’s not an either/or situation. I’m sure some of them do, dispite not having seen much evidence of it. And I’m sure some “nice girls” don’t like geeks. (This, I have seen evidence of). But I suspect it’s a bit more complicated than that.
Some “nice guys” don’t have much confidence. Or are too shy to aproach many women. Or don’t meet many available women, due to thier job/social groups. Or lack the social skills to properly show thier attraction, without appering desperate. Or don’t have the experience to know they’re coming off as a dangerous stalker type. Or are just plain unatractive/unluckly. Or get so sick of rejection that they stop trying. Or some combination of the above. I would assume that “nice girls” have similar problems.
And it’s the year 2000, after all. You could try approching us once in a while, if you know a “nice guy” you like.
Is it possible that “nice girls” don’t meet up with single men often? Scanning the old hard drive, of all the women I’ve known well enough to know thier “status,” as it were, I can think of maybe three woman in the 19-40 age group who didn’t have at least occasional relationships. And two of them were special cases.
I suppose every woman I pass on the street could be a desperatly lonley “nice girl,” but picking up random women on the street dosn’t seem like a good way to find someone with similar interests, and does seem like a very good way to get beat up, arrested or maced.
Of course, every woman I pass on the street could be a werewolf, too. I’ve never met either of them in real life.
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Sorry. Even I can’t be reasonable and understanding all the time, I guess.