A technique some members of the psychology community prefer over deprogramming of a cult member is something called exit counseling. Basically it consists of having a respectful conversation with a cult member, having a probing conversation to examine and make them examine their own values and beliefs, offering them information that makes them question various unspoken beliefs about the religion they are part of, offering them info which shows their current beliefs violate their emotional values and helping them understand what emotional wounds drew them into the cult.
Steven Hassan has written about this, and examples of what he means are telling someone who is in the Moonies (which preach the evils of violence) is led by a man who had investments in an M-16 factory. Or examining what personal traumas led someone into a cult. The view is that if you dig up enough info that shows the logical beliefs to be contradictory and the emotional values unfulfilled by the current beliefs people will get confused, but eventually give up on the current beliefs because the inconsistencies, lack of evidence, contradictions and violations of deeply held values is too much cognitive dissonance to bear.
So basically it seems to be a fusion of the concept of unexamined personal beliefs (promoted by people like Ellis) with Socratic questioning. The goal is that if you can examine your beliefs and find they are logically unsound then you will abandon them.
What the hell is my point? I’m wondering if anyone does this on a regular basis. I kindof do, but not in a serious way. Does anyone regularly examine their own motivations and beliefs with probing questions the same way some people regularly clean their house?