Still don’t understand why you can’t just throw another blanket on the bed. Heck my Wife and I live in the Mountains of Colorado, and we never turn the heat on in our bedroom. Heck, we usually have a window open even in winter. I think lots of blankets are really comfy, though right now we have sheet|blanket|comforter|sheet. Works fine.
Do you have difficulties sleeping with more than one blanket?
Sorry I missed that question. I actually thought of that but i would have to go in her room and turn on the radiator. I certainly wouldn’t mind but I would imagine I would wake her up. It is a decent suggestion though and I will make the offer to her if we continue to struggle with this. Many thanks.
Why don’t you try it your way for a month, then her way for a month? After that see if you can reach some sort of compromise?
FWIW I don’t see you as being any more reasonable or unreasonable than she is. In fact, you seem a little more reasonable to me because your willing to compromise and even pay the additional cost.
I don’t think i could sleep with more than 2 and maybe a light third. I dunno, be it anemia, genes, low blood pressure, I guess I am a freak…lol. I find chilly air even on my face wakes me up.
Thanks. I am more than willing to give her way a go (though maybe not for a month) I just want her to be as open to giving my idea(s) a try.
So you’re worried about waking her up by turning on her heat, but not about her waking up to turn on her own heat? 
This is not exactly accurate. If you take over the thermostat, it is nigh impossible for her to get her room to be the temperature she wants, when she wants. If she runs the thermostat, you still can have your room/bed the temperature you want, just not with the heat source you want.
When you compromise, you agree to use a secondary source of heat to acheive your desired sleeping temperature.
When she compromises, she has to suck it up and not get her desired sleeping temperature.
I don’t see these choices as being equal, and I don’t understand why you can’t see that.
I think it boils down to conflicting convenience. You are asking your room-mate to sacrifice an uninterrupted night’s sleep so you can be comfortable. She is unwilling to do that and wants you to find some way to keep warm room (or suffer through the cold while she sleeps soundly). While you have my sympathy, if you’re just looking for somebody to back you up in your bid to take control of the heating arrangements at your apartment, I don’t think the majority here will side with you.
There is no “fair” way to compromise, given the situation you’ve outlined for us. Either she has to wake up ahead of time to adjust her radiator or you have to freeze. There are two possible ways to give each person what she wants. The first is for her to buy an air conditioning unit and use a timer to cool her room during the affected hours. The other is for you to purchase a space heater and run it while you sleep. Neither solution is fair, but let’s face it, that’s life in a nutshell.
The heating system in your apartment is a shared resource, so nobody’s needs should trump anyone else’s. unless room-mate #3 is willing help you hide room-mate #2’s body, your best path is to buy a space heater for your own use. That way, you are being more than fair.
Even when I was living in a house by myself, I found that a good oil-filled electric space heater (looks like a radator) was quiet* and produced all the heat I could want. That way, I didn’t have to heat the whole house when all I needed was just one warm room (or two - did I say it was powerful?)
–SSgt Baloo
*Once it got warmed up – until then it would click and pop.
You’re right; I don’t understand the mechanics of your radiator and timers and stuff and I don’t really want to. I can tell you one thing, though; if you ever get married or start living with a significant other, you will most likely have this issue all over again (except worse, because you’ll be in the same bedroom. MUWAHAHAHA!!!.) My husband (The Human Furnace), and I (Ice Block Feet) have had to find our way through this. The end result is that he’s mostly comfortable, and I’m mostly comfortable, and that’s about as good as it gets.
I’ve done sort of “short term” living with partners and yes it was an issue. Mostly they would just kick the blanket off if they got warm though.
Whynot, sorry, maybe it’s just me but reaching over and turning on the heat (it’s within reach of her bed) and having some bumbling roommate stumble in and turning it on are a bit different in terms of invading someone’s space. I would do if it in a heartbeat if that helped her but it would weird me out if I was the one in bed!