My ex and I broke up a year ago today. Our relationship sort of lasted one more day, because we agreed to spend one last night together, and still gave each other a few farewell kisses as I was moving out the following day, but the decision was made exactly a year ago.
A few months earlier, around March 2022, as it was getting increasingly clear that we were nearing the end, I heard this song, which summed up my feelings perfectly. How something that had started so beautifully ended up utterly failing.
A year ago today, we sat next to each other listening to that song, still somewhat stunned by the decision we had taken that morning.
Can I go back there, back to the beginning again ?
Can I go back there, back to the beginning ?
Can I go back there, back to the beginning again ?
Someplace back where we were just beginning.
In the weeks that followed, I realised that it also applied to my relationship with my daughters. I remember how I used to hug them all the time, how we used to laugh on the way to school, how they would put their little hands in mine when I came back from work.
They didn’t call me for Father’s Day this year. Nor the year before. They stopped wishing me a happy birthday a long time ago.
More generally, I cannot help but acknowledge a deep sense of failure. 48 and single in spite of having had quite a few women in my life, a dead-end career in spite of a magna cum laude University degree, some clear signs that my body and my brain are starting to decline and so many missed opportunities and bad choices. So many things I would change if I was taken back to 1974.
Do you have songs like this ?