Hold up a sec…at the end of the OP, you said “…this girl has been caught up in a bit of a love pentagon”
That’s 5 people (I be an engineer!), ok, so there’s her, you, the other guy you mentioned, and ** 2 other guys!**. Also, she’s got a rep for being easy, and you actually know that the other guy is getting full carnal benefits. Sounds like probably the other two guys are too.
So you’re the only one in the pentagon who’s not getting any? All you’ve got so far is a little stinkfinger and a whopping case of blueballs. What the fuck?
If she’s not at least giving you the same goodies as the other three guys, then it’s pretty obvious that you’re not really in this pentagon, you’re her designated whipping boy. She talks to you like you’re her own personal shrink, has fun with you, uses you against the others, but never, ever includes you in the REAL relationship part of her life.
I’ve been used by a girl just like this. She was 19, there’s something about that point in a lot of women’s lives where they pull shit like this. Coincidentally she was a theater person too.(well…does exotic dancing count??) I finally ended up taking SEVERAL large steps completely the fuck out of the picture, which included having to quit hanging out with our mutual friends in our favorite club. Soon after, her little world collapsed and things got ugly. I was glad to not have been a part of it.
Dude, take the hit, get out, save yourself, you owe her nothing, go find someone who will want only you in her world. She’s out there, sometimes it just takes a hell of a long time to find her. I hated hearing this before, but it really will happen when you least expect it. Weird, but true. Best of luck.