You disgust me.
Hey, I almost totally agree with you and that almost never happens! People on this board are very quick to discuss kicking someone’s ass, esp. if anyone has the temerity to insult their woman. What is this, the 1790’s? “You’ve insulted the honor of my wife-- take that!” ::glove across the face:: “Pistols at dawn, you cretinous rogue!” Please. For all the talk, I’m sure most of this posturing would be replaced in real life by less… dramatic responses.
If you object to something someone says, I’d have more respect for you if you, the woman, said you would kick the guy’s ass yourself. If people have to be threatening others with violence, which is a pathetic response to begin with, at least do your own dirty work.
When I was young, it was accepted that a manly American man would have the attitude, “No wife of mine is going to work!”
How many children they had was never a factor.
It’s good to know that that attitude isn’t prevalent anymore.
Oh, if either one of us (me or Himself) were able to make enough money to meet our needs and wants, the other would love to stay home and take care of everything. It’s no big deal to work 40-50 hours a week knowing someone else has taken care of all the chores and errands. ::sigh:: And taking care of all the chores and errands would be no big deal if one weren’t working 40-50 hours a week.
Heh I totally agree. I earn more than my wife, easily enough for both of us, and I kinda wish my wife would stay home - all those chores could actually get done.
<total hijack>Since this happened to be in the Pit, can I just mention how unbearably, unbelievably annoying I find the “Himself” thing? It’s truly like fingernails on a blackboard for me. I desperately wish everyone would stop doing it.
Nothing personal, TroubleAgain, even though I do hate you now.
</total hijack>
Certainly, my good fellow.
pees in the glass
Here you go!
You have it all wrong. My wife explained it to me. I thought she should only wear pearls while vacuuming. Turns out it’s “wear only pearls while vacuuming”.
Regards,
Shodan
My opinion is that if I make enough money for my SO to stay home… great! If my SO makes enough money for me to stay home… EVEN BETTER!.. as long as we can afford a maid, I’m a little lousy at cleaning.
If I hit the lottery for $50 million, I’ll never work another day in my life. Life is for living and I work to live, not live to work.
What’s wrong with a wife who “GETS BACK IN THE FUCKING KITCHEN!!!”, of her own accord?
;p
Back when Mr. S was freshly downsized and having trouble finding a decent job, we flirted with the idea of him just staying home and me supporting both of us. I’m self-employed and work at home, so it would have been great. Unfortunately I don’t make enough by myself to keep us in the style to which we’d like to become accustomed 
, and there’s also the matter of decent health insurance, which usually requires somebody to have an employer.
There’s always a ton of stuff waiting to be done around here, and I’d love for him to able and stay home to do it, and so would he. If my income were to jump significantly, we’d do it in a heartbeat.
The more I read the OP, the dumber it looks. Do you think you’re the productivity czar, Tijuana_Golds? You say or imply everybody has to work a paying job in order to contribute to society, and women have to work or else they contribute nothing to their marriages. What the fuck sense does that make?
Basically it sounds like you think everybody is obliged to render some kind of service to society that meets your approval. What a load of bullshit. Most people work because they have to in order to eat and have a place to live. If they can get those things without both partners in the workplace, why the hell do they have to work? Because you say they aren’t productive enough? Who gives a shit! This is the fabled Protestant Work Ethic being taken to a really stupid extreme. Work is not life. Perhaps these women are really lazy, but maybe they’re enjoying their lives and not “wasting” them.
If you’re jealous, say so.
That said, I think you’ve fallen for one of those “look at this outrageous trend” stories that news outlets love to do. Basically they take something that almost never happens and say it now appears to be happening a little more often, which allows people to flip out over how society is going to anymore. (For some reason, the flip-out-ees usually say “anymore” when they mean “nowadays.” I hate that.)
Stay at home wives without children may be a growing niche, but it’s never going to be anything but a tiny one. The cost of living keeps going up and up, and lately it’s been even worse. Most couples will absolutely never be able to afford this kind of arrangement. Having no kids makes it easier, but still.
Then again, let’s Pit this entitled bitch!
How dare this lazy tart do charity work and fulfill her creative interests when she could be working in an office and making money for a boss!
This is the same sort of backward mentality as those who think it has anything to do with famine in Africa if I don’t finish my peas. Stuffing my face and adding lard to my ass is just as wasteful as throwing the food away. If I don’t need it, I don’t need it.
In this case, you choose your luxuries, if staying home is one, then that’s your option. If they were both working they’d just be looking for things they don’t need to spend that money on to take their mind off of the stress.
Plenty of couples have one person working while the other stays at home with the kid(s), and they are financially stable. If all of those couples didn’t have kids and still had the same income arrangement, they’d be even more financially stable. Some people are happy with that - not everyone needs to be rich.
My dad is retired now (he’s under 60) and my mom still works (also under 60). My dad blew all our minds by becoming a “stay at home husband” when he retired instead of getting a part time job or some wacky hobby. Mom comes home for a fresh lunch every day and there’s hot dinner on the table when she returns from work. Dad does all the laundry, shopping, yardwork and fixes stuff around the house. I’d totally be into that setup - either side of it, really - if I had a husband and one of our income levels allowed for it.
So you’re uptight because people decide how they want to do things within their marriage? Why should it matter to you?
There were a few times in our marriage when I didn’t have a job, and we really enjoyed it. I wouldn’t have a job now if we weren’t trying to clear up some debt. For some odd reason, my husband likes to come home to a clean house and a destressed wife, and likes when I can take off for a trip with him on the spur of the moment. After you look at my salary and figure in the costs of my having a job, I’m working for peanuts anyway.
When I didn’t have a job before, I kept the house clean, wrote, did volunteer work, went to school, and spent time with my husband. Sorry if you have a problem with that, but we were very happy. The only reason I went back to work when I did was because we had to pay off the loan we took out trying to have kids (IVF isn’t cheap).
Also, if one spouse grosses 200K and the other only 30K–depending on their particular tax situation–the 30K might only net out to 16K or so. Hardly worth it, considering that there is probably childcare to consider, and the expenses that come from working, e.g. commuting, wardrobe, etc.
Actually, men have traditionally had two options: work or prison.
I could only watch part of that video, once she fought to get out the term “metallic oxide salts” she lost me. Please, please tell me that I fell for a whoosh like the DMHO frauds? Please? That she’s not seriously certain that the only way she’d get a rainbow from a sprinkler is because of contaminants in the water or the air. :eek:
Then whatever you do, never read Infinite Jest. Actually that’s good advice regardless of the ‘Himself’ thing; there are 147 other cute-isms in that book that you’d probably find objectionable as well.
As to the OP… work sucks ass. I (male) would quit in an instant if I could. I could find enough to do around the house to keep me busy. Having a 2-career family can also suck ass when you’re constantly haggling about domestic chores. If some couple somewhere has come to a happy understanding where one works for wages and the other keeps the home, then more power to them. If there is room in this world for people who can’t orgasm unless they’re wearing a latex gas mask, certainly we can make room for voluntary work-at-home wives.
Work or prison? Work or prison? Hmmm…
Stranger
The OP did exclude women with children from the rant, at least. But besides the extra expenses you mentioned, there is the need for a cleaning service, plenty of take out meals or restaurant trips (more expensive and less healthy) , taking time off for the repairman, etc., etc.