I have two adult children. One has developmental delays and still lives at home. That one has just started working this year. He doesn’t make much but he is making slow and steady progress toward an independent adulthood. The other lives independently.
Three of us got the previous stimulus awards. For some reason my child that lives at home never did get the $600 or $1200 . We think he never got those payments because, unlike his sitter, he had never worked before. We tried to get the payments for him but were unsuccessful. The kid living independently received both of the previous payments into her bank account.
This most recent payment came to my bank account. The amount was $4,200.
I told my husband that the money had arrived and transferred $2,100 to his account. A few days later I realized that we had actually received three $1,400 payments. That seems to be three $1,400 payments.
I checked with my child that lives independently and she had received $1,400 so the money wasn’t intended for her.
I told my husband that I think we made a mistake. I think we both received $1,400 and that there was a third $1,400 payment that I think is intended for our son. I suggested we both transfer $700 to my son’s bank account and we did that and told him “Congrats!”.
When I talked about this at work I was surprised at how many folks there also received money intended for kids )of all ages) but don’t plan to move the money along to the intended recipient.
Most said “I’ve supported this kid since birth. They own me., Plus, they’ll just spend it,” or some variation of that.
I said “I disagree. It’s stimulus money. You’re supposed to spend it. And it’s immoral, unethical, and wrong to keep money that doesn’t belong to you.”
But that doesn’t seem fair either.
I mean, if you kid is 3 years old, or 10 years old, fine. Keep the money. Or put it in their bank account (if they have one). Or spend it like it is intended. Or maybe give them a bonus/award to buy something special.
But if your kid is I dunno- 17 or older, I don’t feel like you can reasonably keep the money.
I think you risk potentially damaging your relationship with that/those kid(s) for a lifetime if you keep money intended for them. I don’t think $1,400 is worth a lifetime of damage and mistrust.
How are SDers handling this? Thoughts?