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Darn, now I feel foolish. Has anybody used “Baby got back!”
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Well, see, I didn’t SAY “get angry with them” I believe I said that they would tell the person not to stare. Although I think it’s interesting that you used the phrase “be allowed to get angry with people for staring at them”.
If a woman IS going to behave that way (and FTR, if she’s wanting to be sexy, I don’t think most women would, again, unless if was a really over-the-top “you’re not human you are merely boobs to entertain me look”), how is she “not going to be allowed”? What? Are the thought police going to come along and write her a citation for inappropriate responses to an inappropriate response? 
If that’s what they are going to do, that’s what they’re going to do. They have the “right” to do, or say anything in return that they wish.
You asked me if they had a right to tell someone to stop staring. Technically, people (anyone, not just “too” sexily dressed women) have the “right” to say anything in response to another person, that they want.
How the “starer” reacts to the “staree’s” comment, is another issue. If by “not allowing” her to get angry you mean that the starer would retort “well what are you dressed that way for” or some such.
Just for interest sake, I’d wager that even if a guy was doing the “creepy, dehumanizing” type stare as opposed to an appreciative look (and again, there’s a big difference), and the girl said something, 9 times out of 10, even the creepiest guy would probably desist.
If however, that you meant “most women who dress that way know they’re being sluts and wouldn’t protest no matter what because they know they deserve any type of look that comes their way” I disagree.
Again, there are LOOKS, and then there are creepy, as described above, dehumanizing leers. There IS a difference, and yes. We can feel them.
The first would likely be noted, appreciated, and ignored, the second is just not appropriate, and the woman has the right, no matter WHAT she’s wearing to SAY something if that’s what she feels.
All this is a load of bollox.
Any man in his right mind will look at a nice looking woman [unless he’s gay of course] so whats the problem?
A man is looking at a woman in admiration, fine: it isn’t as if he’s offered to take her into the washroom and do the dirty, he’s admiring her is all.
Keerist!
SPOGGA, with all due respect, I think you’re confusing a man who “looks at a woman in admiration” and a guy who stares impassively at a woman (or parts of her) every time she walks by. The former can be flattering; the latter is creepy.
I’m not going to be drawn into some IMO ridiculous hijack about what if she’s tits out in tight clothes, or posing in the gym, or stark-ass naked or whatever. I mean a coworker, minding her own business, being openly stared at by an expressionless near-total stranger every time she walks by. If you guys really don’t get why one is okay and the other obviously is not, then by all means keep your eyes to yourselves at all times, and leave the looking to men who can do it with a little more finesse.
I am still looking.
Here’s looking at you, Daerlyn!
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I think I know the stare.
I used to live near a McDonalds which had seen fit to hire the ultimate creepazoid to work in the kitchen. As in most fast food joints, there was clear visibility between the dining room and the kitchen area.
Whenever I would go there, this guy would stare at me. Not just look me over, but look me over like he was sizing me up to see if I would fit into his freezer chest. I would move to hide behind another customer, and he would move so that I was in his line of sight. I complained to the girl at the counter and she just kind of shrugged. Probably should have asked to talk to a manager, but I really just wanted to get my “food” and get the hell out. Once, I was in line with another attractive woman, and I pointed the guy out to her, and she said, “Yeah, he does that to me, too.”
That the kind of stare you’re talking about, Daerlyn?
**Thea ** has it pegged.
And just to clear things up, I usually wear trousers and cleavage-less sweaters on weekdays. 