Straight Getting Married to one of Twins girl

[kiranlove]

@CairoCarol

You need to work on your sense of humor. Chicks dig a guy with a self-effacing sense of humor.

lol

[kiranlove]

@VarlosZ

kiranlove, only out of curiosity, why did you choose to ask advice on this message board, specifically?

There are many smart people on this board, but very few of them know much about Indian culture, and almost none have any experience with arranged marriage. Almost everyone here is from the United States or Europe, so everyone here thinks that it is important to get to know your soon-to-be wife (since it would be very unusual here to marry someone you weren’t already extremely close to). Also in these countries, it would be considered strange if someone was concerned about his wife being a twin. It’s just not something we worry about. So, most people here are going to give you similar advice.

Good luck!

thank you and i accept only good things rather than western culture.

[kiranlove]

@Really_Not_All_That_Bright

I think you’d be surprised to discover how many of the board’s denizens are Indian (though to be fair most of us are non-resident Indians or just “Indian by descent.”)

i agree…my intention was to know something about the fact…

[kiranlove]

@Anaamika

It really doesn’t work like that, in my experience. Here is my experience with twins, and admittedly I’ve never dated them, but I’ve been friends with a few sets.

After a few years, *they don’t even look alike to you anymore. * You have gotten to know them so well they look different, they have different personalities, and you can tell them apart in a second. So quick, as a matter of fact, you begin to have trouble understanding why other people can’t.

You may find your love’s twin physically attractive, but then again you may not. There may be just enough differences - and even identical twins can have different facial markings, scars, acne, etc. - and after all your wife is the one you love.

Now what I can see is you feeling either a) extra protective over the twin or b) a little jealous of the twin.

i guess, i have to think more…

[kiranlove]

@Whiskey_Dickens

I’m curious to have a verified Indian TM validate the turns of phrase kiranlove is using.

“How about kids?”
“Am not super hero”
“ignore that shit”

…just don’t seem like how an average Indian with a 75% grasp on English would speak.

I talk to Gujaratis on a regular basis, and have lived with a Gujarati with really basic English skills for a significant amount of time, and kiranlove doesn’t seem to use the English language in the same way.

I’m sure someone is going to blast me for assuming that there is a standard way for 1.2 billion people to misspeak a second language, but I’m not sure how else to express it.

thank you…

[SciFiSam]

WRT heritability, if your wife-to-be is genuinely an identical twin then the chances of her birthing twins is as much as for any woman. Her being a twin makes no difference.

What could make a difference is that, genetically, her children by you, and her sister’s children by that other husband, would be half-siblings. If you have a culture where cousins or even second cousins marry then this could a concern many years down the line.

It’s also not always that easy to determine whether a twin is actually an identical twin, sharing identical genes, or a fraternal twin. Fraternal twins are an inherited trait. If the twins are of different genders then it’s pretty easy to say that they were fraternal twins.

If two placentas came out, then they were almost definitely fraternal twins and likewise one placenta usually means identical twins. However, there have been cases where fraternal twins have shared a placenta and cases where identical twins have had individual placentas - it’s all due to when they separated. Absent very obvious markers like gender or blood type you can’t be certain whether a twin is fraternal or identical.

The twin will just be herself, anyway.