I was at the friday night ballroom dance (it’s not sad where we are, honest), and there was a great shortage of ladies. Pete and I managed a quickstep together.
I have iirc once before, mainly as a bit of a laugh, which makes it twice out of three years…
Is it normal for anyone? Would anyone never do it? Have you? Did anyone ask if you were gay? At what - it’s little deal in random club bopping, but way out there for some dances I seem to get some sort of thrill from breaking a social convention. Am I odd? Am I repressing something (irony)? For that matter have you ever asked a man to dance? Did you get punched?
Last winter I was dancing with a few male friends at a nightclub … thought it would be funny to leave the dance floor and see how long it took them to realize they were girl-less.
I estimate they were off the dance floor within about 10 seconds!!!
Here in small-town Canada at least, guys just do not dance with guys.
You know, it occurs to me (after seeing you mention clubs for dance types) that there are two types of dance (well there are more than two, but you’ll see what I mean)…
dancing (a) - moving in a hopefully sexual manner whilst in the vicinity of a member of the desired sex (opposite or same) in time (hopefully) with the music currently playing.
dancing (b) - expressing/releasing your creativity using body movement as your medium.
The former I can never see myself doing. (I am so self aware that I would just see it as moving about randomly for the sake of appearing to be ‘dancing’ in order to please the unlucky girl I am with)
The later I feel I have, deep down, the grace and elegance to pull off in such a way that people will say - “he’s the greatest dancer”, but which I will never do because of the layers and layers of insecurity, self-awareness, self-doubt, and the lack of self-esteem
(It’s the drink talking. I know I’ll regret this tomorow.)
Whoops. I meant ‘club’ as in ‘society’ not as in ‘night club’. My bad. We dance in the church hall
I know nothing about club dancing either, I was thinking about something more regimented like salsa, where you’re supposed to enjoy dancing by dancing with a partner, and since you need a partner, you can just ask someone. It’s cool.
none.
I don’t really hang out in a whole lot of places where people dance, and even fewer places where the music is conducive to dancing with someone. So it’s never really come up.
I slow-danced with a gay friend at my wedding, and quite a few times with other friends just because it was funny. Never really had any other occasion to, though I wouldn’t care if it came down to it.
Well, it probably depends on where you’re doing the dancing. When I was in college, I didn’t know how to dance, and I found myself at a party where there were no unattached women, so I asked a gay friend of mine to teach me how to dance. It was great! I learned how to dance without the pressure of trying to impress a woman, and he got to scope out the room for guys to hook up with while not looking desperate (he was a shy gay man, you see).
I am reminded of a lot of old war movies where the soldiers danced with each other during parties because there are no women around. (Stalag 17 is the first film to come to mind.)
If they could do it in an old macho '50s movie, well…
Do you count that boring line-dance thing the military makes every young soldier do? All that hup, two, three, four, and present arms, and dress-right-dress…what a dopey dance, but lots of guys have done that with other guys. :rolleyes:
None, but I wouldnt mind “club”-ish dancing with other guys, as long as the music’s good. Sure beats not dancing at all, and IMHO, doesnt look as dorky as dancing alone.
Wouldnt ballroom with another guy though, to repressed.
I dont think that men can dance without “sexual overtones” being implied.
Women can dance with women just because we like to dance and it doesnt mean anything. I cant think of any female who has not danced with another female at one time or another.
But it looks stupid for straight men to dance with men, and I think “straight men” think it is pointless to dance with other men.
I’ll agree that’s the vastly prevalent view, but I think we’ve shown here it’s not universal. I can’t say I don’t normally prefer dancing with a woman, but dancing with a man’s not completely pointless.
‘It looks stupid for straight men to dance with men’ - you mean that’s what men think, or what women think, or what you think, or all three?
I seem to get some sort of thrill from breaking a social convention. Am I odd? Am I repressing something (irony)? For that matter have you ever asked a man to dance? Did you get punched?