Inspired by a thread in GD, I wanted to ask this. In communal showers/locker rooms does the idea of gay men being in there and seeing you naked bother you at all? If so how much on a scale of 1 to 10? Bear in mind that if you’re in a locker room with 15 other guys then statistically one of them is gay.
Nope, not at all. I can’t say I haven’t ever thought about it, but nope.
I don’t find communal showers a very arousing place most of the time.
No.
I don’t communal showers, but when I’m in one, I’m assuming everyone is doing what I’m doing - cleaning up and getting the hell out. I don’t spend a lot of time looking around at other dudes, so unless someone is boring a hole through my genitalia with their eyes, I wouldn’t even notice someone looking in my direction.
One thing that bothers me about straight homophobic people is the assumption that gay people find them attractive. Isn’t that presumptuous? As a straight person, I don’t find every woman attractive, and I’m bothered when a woman assumes that just because they have two X chromosomes I want to get in their pants. All of the gay guys I’ve known are very particular, so I think if there was a stereotypical reaction at most gyms in America among gay dudes, it would be “yuck.”
Exactly!
No. Even if I had the kind of body that gay men might want, I wouldn’t care.
Ditto.
I wouldn’t mind as long as the gay men keep their hands to themselves and don’t stare too much. I think that would cover 99.9997% of all gay shower encounters, so I don’t worry about it.
Also, in all the times I have showered at the gym I can’t say that I have ever noticed anybody being obviously gay, while statistically I’ve probably met a few gays there. So in most cases I wouldn’t even know that I was in the same shower room as a gay.
Not a problem for me. I’ve had two openly gay roommates, and never thought twice about it.
I wouldn’t mind. Hell, if someone were checking me out, I’d feel hot.
No, not really.
I can see the flip side of that, the suspicion that someone who prefers my gender - whether gay man or straight woman - might take note of my unattractiveness in a way that a straight man doesn’t care enough to do. While it is pretty low on the list of things I worry about, a gay man finding me unattractive might bother me a bit, but one finding me attractive wouldn’t.
I feel confident in speaking on Mr. S’s behalf and saying that he wouldn’t care. As someone said upthread, most guys are in the to clean up and get out. And yes, we’re all particular about who we’re attracted to, rather than lusting after everyone who has the correct chromosomes.
As for myself, I’ve slept in a bed with a lesbian. We were both in committed relationships at the time, we were both wearing modest jammies, and there were two other women in the other double bed in the hotel room that we were all sharing. I wasn’t ooged out at all. Sheesh, she was my friend, that’s all.
My shower is fairly small, only about 9 square feet, so I don’t think it would be much fun with 15 guys in there. If there was only one other man, and he happened to be gay, it wouldn’t be a big deal, but I don’t see why he couldn’t just use the guest shower or at worst we could take turns in the shower.
Assuming we’re talking about the typical large, communal shower of a locker room in a gym or whatever:
No.
No. Also had a gay male roomate for two years and was never concerned, bothered, or otherwise thoughtful about it.
>I’m bothered when a woman assumes that just because they have two X chromosomes I want to get in their pants.
Yeah, well, this is kind of a tough one. As Billy Crystal’s character in “When Harry Met Sally” said, “No, you pretty much want to nail them too.” To be much more accurate and fussy about this one, women should assume that just because they have two X chromosomes we probably want to get in their pants. Not that I approve of this kind of want, mind you. The thing is, Nature doesn’t care if sex is incredible, it only cars you think it is going to be.
Are they erect and trying to mount me? Or suggesting it?
Then no.
Though I suppose I would find it somewhat disturing to encounter two gay men having sex together in the shower. Or two lesbians, but that would be a different, hotter, kind of disturbance.
This. I’m flattered when gay men hit on me.
Seriously, I’m flattered when anyone, of any orientation, faith, etc…is appreciative of anything of mine for any reason.
I also think it’s cool if anybody finds me attractive, but I’d rather not find out as I’m scrubbing my ass after shooting hoops.
Napier, I guess I’m a little different. I see women all the time, and there’s very few I want to see naked, especially when I consider people I encounter at the gym. Now if I’m at Venice Beach, that percentage goes up a little bit. But again, seeing an attractive woman does not equate to raging boner instantly, for me anyway.
kellner, I guess I don’t care one way or the other. I’m a teensy bit uncomfortable being checked out in a shower by someone I presume finds me attractive (unless I found them attractive as well, and I knew this before someone of either gender was checking me out in the shower), and if someone is thinking how gross I am, I think that’s just assholish behavior. I guess I would interpret someone looking at me as some kind of flattery, because, you know, you can always just look in the other direction if I repulse you so much.
Let me put it in more general terms - if someone is checking you out in a way that is totally undetectable, you can’t tell but they’re doing it, would that bother you? Or is it just obvious oggling that does?