This comes from a few places - one of them is a youtube video that I watched earlier that talked about the “issues” facing the army following the end of DADT, namely straight soldiers having to share shower and changing spaces with gay colleagues :eek:
But, also, and I mean this in a totally non-judgemental way, I’m interested to know if this is something that bothers the average straight person. The simple truth is that in a group shower, if there is a gay man or woman there then, yes, there is a chance they may be oggling you, although hopefully they’ll be doing it subtly so you don’t notice. I can’t deny that’s going to happen, and I can understand that not everyone likes the idea of that, but then that must be balanced against the right of gay people to not be herded into a separate changing room in some kind of sexuality apartheid.
So, I wanted to run this poll and ask people with a series of nuanced responses to the question how they felt about this, rather than make it a simple yes/no. PLEASE if you are someone who hates sharing a shower with anyone at all then DON’T vote in here, it will skew the results. I’m specifically looking for people who are fine in shared showers but specifically have an issue doing so with a gay individual there.
Nah, no issues. Shared showers, dressing rooms and nekkid hot-tubbing with people of all sexes and persusions and if it was ever uncomfortable, I got over it many years ago.
Yup, I chose “other” as well. I don’t want to share the shower with anybody, TYVM, but I wouldn’t be any more opposed to sharing the shower with a gay person than a heterosexual.
I was in the Army a long time, I am sure I have showered and shared tents with gay people.
No one ever made any issues of it at all. AND I looked pretty good back then.
I admit, it would bother me in a mild way to shower with a gay person who I knew was gay but didn’t know well. It’s a visceral, irrational thing, and I know it’s really my problem, not theirs, but it’s still present. I can’t imagine that showering with men in the same military unit would bother me, because I’d actually know them, and so I wouldn’t feel too weird. I would feel much weirder showering with a group of men I don’t know of undetermined sexuality at a gym than I would with a group of men I do know, some of whom were gay.
I’m not exactly sure what would bother someone about it. I understand being self conscious about being naked in front of people, but I can’t see how someone being gay would make it worse.
I never was a fan of group showers, but it had nothing to do with the sexuality of others. Now, at my age, there’s not a whole lot that bothers me about nudity, and if someone wants to check me out, it’s not my problem… :eek:
This, precisely. If I must use a group shower, I assume I’m with other adults, and adults can act like adults regardless of orientation. I’d really prefer not to use a group shower at all, though.
How do I know it hasn’t happened already? I haven’t been in a group shower for over 20 years, but I used to go to the gym, and took gym class in school. Odds are there were gay guys there. If I knew they were gay I’d probably turn it around on them and give them a show and make them uncomfortable. Modesty isn’t really an issue with me. And now I’m old and saggy, so knock yourself out if you want to look at me naked. Anybody want pictures?
That’s how I feel about it too. I’d rather shower alone (and maybe sometimes with my husband). If you’re forcing me into a group shower, I’ll be too busy hating the situation to even give a shit whether one of the other women is a lesbian.
I suppose if you’re afraid of ‘yucky’ people you’re not attracted to [or who even disgust you] checking you out while you’re naked, that could be an issue for cuter gay guys.
Sound like a worthwhile poll?
As a gay man who showers regularly with his boyfriend, I can honestly say that I would find nothing sexy or desirable about showering with any other gay or straight guys. It wouldn’t be fun at all…
Another one for “prefers not to shower with with other people at all.”
But if I had to choose, I’d take a gay woman before any man, straight or gay. Naked guys would make me very uncomfortable (heck, even clothed guys make me uncomfortable), oggly or not.
As long as he isn’t making physical contact with me, I don’t care what he does. Frankly, I can easily understand why somebody watching me wash my naked,glistening body would find hirself getting all hot and bothered. Wank if you must, but make sure I don’t get caught in the overspray.
