Cecil on sneezing after orgasm:
I always thought this would be filed under “strange stories of love and sex,” but the way this thread is going, maybe not . . .
I had a lover that would instantly get erect if I brushed my hand over his earlobe . . . would orgasm if I blew into his ear . . . . Without fail. He couldn’t help it. He would also spasm uncontrollably for a few minutes, which made the deal, um, interesting for me as well.
It was a power I used judiciously . . .and only for good. (Okay, my good, mostly. Although he didn’t complain. Not one single time.)
Never met anybody like this before . . . or since. Unfortunately, everything else about him was such that the relationship didn’t last, but it was quite a time while it did.
Guess he was wired differently or something.
Anybody ever observed this in the field for themselves?
your humble TubaDiva
Uhh…okay…ever consider that it’s a very individual matter vs “gay/straight”? Reading the thread, seems to me that this is so quirky (makes the world go ‘round!) that we all just have to grit our collective teeth and apply the scientific method and experiement! Be brave, give your all for science…
Seems to me that there are so many levels of physicolgical, societal, cultural and individual factors (AHEM!) that the only possible recourse is common sense. Scrag shyness (why else did you get into this interesting predicament?), try for it, and listen for the reaction. Not to simplify or anything here, but there just IS not indiividual activity. Experiment, go with the results, and seek out further frontiers.
Can’t believe I just wrote that.
Anyway, ears, nipples, insteps or whatever, if this ain’t intimacy, why’re botherin’ ?
(Newbie here; is this really what this board is all about?)
<sigh> god bless this board>>ROFL. I cannot stop quiverring when my lover licks my ears, or throat. Nipples? Right on, I about died the first time she took on into her mouth and went to town. Nobody had ever done that before…
It’s not the gear, it’s how it’s wired !
Typer
definatly not a nipple guy! I get no pleasure sensations from it at all actually, if anything just some pain.
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Athena - Hell, I wasn’t even allowed to touch him anywhere near or on his spine. He said he couldn’t stand it.
so your into spine sex are you? what does that mean? Thats a new one on me!
The wisest man I ever knew taught me something I never forgot. And although I never forgot it, I never quite memorized it either. So what I’m left with is the memory of having learned
something very wise that I can’t quite remember. -George Carlin
Back to the original question…
Matt - a lot of the really steamy romance novels go into loving detail about men’s nipples.
Pain? From what, exactly? Unless your partner was scratching or biting your nipples (definitely not kosher, IMHO, unless the guy asks for it), playing with them shouldn’t hurt.
As for “spinal sex” – I don’t know about men, but in women the base of the spine is one of the most sensitive areas of the body. MMMMMMM!!!
OfficeGirl wrote:
That reminds me:
A while ago, a hermaphrodite I’d started dating (before she told me she was a hermaphrodite) told me that some women can have an orgasm simply by having an attractive male hairdresser wash their hair in warm water.
I’ve always wondered if, in these cases, the woman wasn’t sitting with her legs crossed and moving in such a way as to give herself a little bit of clitoral stimulation…
I’m not flying fast, just orbiting low.
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cool…
Give us all the dirty details!
(hey…they brought it up!)
B_Line12:
hehehee, spine sex. No, not into spine sex, but given the standard missionary position, it’s kinda hard to completely avoid touching the spine at times. Plus, someone gave us a book on sensual massage for a wedding gift. One of the most basic moves mentioned involved touching the spine & massaging the muscles on either side. I was all excited about this book, wanting to try it out, and it was a definite turn off when he looked through it and said “Yeah, let’s do it as long as we don’t do the spine move, and this one is off limits, too, and this doesn’t look fun…” It basically came down to giving him a hand job - something that, although pleasurable, isn’t exactly what I would call a whole-body sensual massage.
I didn’t even realize how much this stuff bugged me until post-divorce. I’m now dating a guy who is pretty much open to anything, and our sex life is WAY more fun!
I have a friend who can do that. She’s not a hermaphrodite, either. But boy, oh, boy does she like to go to the beauty parlor!!!
I know what you mean. I don’t actually orgasm during this, but mmmmm, boy…
I dunno about you, but getting my hair shampooed by an attractive woman can be pretty erotic.
On the subject of wierd erogenous zones, back in my college days I dated a girl who liked me to nibble on her armpits. I think I read somewhere that there are submerged vestigal nipples that run up toward the armpit area, so this might explain why she enjoyed it so much. I did get over the nasty taste of antipersperant after a while…
MC wrote, re my dating a hermaphrodite:
Well … er … she didn’t tell me she was a hermaphrodite until we were at the point where I was about to find out anyway, if you get my meaning. <blush>
She had ovaries, and fallopian tubes, and a uterus, and a cervix … and a scrotum, and one undescended and one partially descended pseudo-testis, and what she called a “micropenis.” She’d been raised as a male and lived that way for about 36 years until she discovered a Usenet newsgroup called alt.transgendered. At the time I met her, she had been on estrogens for about a year and had switched her “legal gender” a few months ago, in preparation for getting sex-reassignment surgery (a “sex change” operation) which would make her a complete woman. (Anyone applying for sex-reassignment surgery in the U.S. has to live as their “target gender” for at least 1 year prior to going under the knife.)
And, well – in the Silicon Valley where I live, unmarried men outnumber unmarried women by a large margin, maybe as much as 2-to-1. So, being in the middle of this dating wasteland, I stayed with her. I dumped her six months later, not because of her plumbing but because she was a total flake who stood me up for our dates (without the courtesy of calling up and cancelling) more often than she showed up for them!
Interestingly, the next woman I dated also turned out to be a hermaphrodite, but this second one had already been through most of the sex-reassignment surgery and was a complete woman. She also had a regular boyfriend, though, which kinda put a damper on our dating.
None of the women I’ve dated since then have been hermaphrodites – to my knowledge.
I’m not flying fast, just orbiting low.
My husband didn’t know how sensitive his nipples were until he met me. 
He swore that no woman had ever really paid any attention to them. I couldn’t imagine ignoring them. I mean, they’re right there, fercryinoutloud. I found a few other erogenous zones he didn’t realize he had, either. Cripes…for a musician, he had a pretty dull sex life before he met me. 
Like many of the other posters here, my ears & the small of my back are really sensitive. Not sensitive enough to take me all the way to the moon, but a darn good start.
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Actually the nasal passages are not an erogenous zone per se: There is an evolutionary remnant (from when we were all crap-flinging tree dwellers), such that our nasal passages expand in response to sexual excitement, thereby allowing us more opportunity to inspire pheromones (Chemical cues/hormones not detected by our sense of smell, but by other unconscious means)This explains sneezing after sex… I actually have allergies to lots of dust, and well, I have experience in this area; often sneezing before any actual sexual contact (quite funny, actually…)
If you had asked me if I had ever, in the history of the board, said anything as silly as
…I’d have said “no way, absolutely not”. :o
Well…some men like their nipples played with, so I do it (& enjoy it, too!) Some…like my SO, find it a completely neutral zone. Because I like to please him, I concentrate on all the other yummy parts he likes having touched.
My ex-husband had very sensitive nipples…so I happily obliged!
Perhaps some straight women don’t think that some men find it erotic…& the men don’t tell them. It’s all about communication, I guess.