Stress-cadet coworker, I pit thee

So, I’ve spent roughly twenty hours in meetings being driven by a particular stress-festing cow-orker here, regarding a certain task that, by mandate of federal law, we had to have done by Thursday of this week. Said employee has been pulling her, and my supervisor’s, hair out for a few months now about this MAAAAJOR task, continually stressing everyone out about HOW much work it’s going to be, and how many problems we’re going to have, and how the earth will stop spinning and the skies will darken and how doomed, in general, we are. Oh, and we could not start the process until this week, bue to oher constraints in the process itself (timing is everything).

I am the tech support person here (sysadmin, net admin, web admin, software developer, DBA, hardware purchasing and repair, security expert, support desk, software training, you name it). This is half of my core responsibilities. The other part? Doing the tech work to keep us compliant with the federal regulations, and navigating those murky waters.

This has been a hellion month for anyone in tech support, especially in the academic environment (where I work), where staff are usually untrained and overloaded, and the vast number of machines we don’t control (student notebooks and machines in dorm rooms) cause problems for us on the scale of legend. But, i digress.

A month and a half ago, I told this cow-orker, and her supervisor, and her supervisor’s supervisor (who happens to be my supervisor too), and their supervisor, in yet-another-meeting-called-about-this-process-because-stress-kitten-vented-to-the-administration-about-how-screwed-we-were, that regardless of how much time and effort it took to get done, none of the time and effort would be hers… zero, zip-in-a-can, and that I was personally responsible for making sure that things were done in due time. This seemed to appease her, and I thought it was jsut another case of an overburdened cow-orker not wanting another last minute project to fall into their lap.

I’ve since been in three meetings to clarify where we stand, and that things would be completed in due time.

Now, today, the time was ripe for working on the project. I’d done key-in tests earlier to figure out how much work were were talking about, and so I was certain that I’d have enough time. To add to this, I’d been offered the assistance of three other employees who were rescheduled at the stress-kitten cow-orkers’ request to make sure I had enough help. I declined the help of all of these though, because honestly, there wasn’t enough work to worry about making it a management project. One of the people did end up helping me to avoid dying of boredom though, and her help is always much appreciated.

So, how long did this massive project, this Herculean task, this Gordian knot of data entry take?

47 minutes.

Less than a third of what I’d predicted as an outside number.

So, Stress-cadet… this pit’s for you.

Maybe sometimes, in the grand scheme of things, hand-wringing and worry-mongering is the best you can offer, and might even have a valid role to play. This wasn’t one of those times, and were the other half-dozen times you’ve interjected your personal stress-driven monkeywrenching into my work environment.

Sometimes, however, worry-mongering is the least productive thing you could offer, and causes more harm than good.

And sometimes, you really just need to learn to shut the fuck up, sit the fuck down, and do the fucking work.

Some people seem to feed on stress. I guess worrying about trivial crap gives their lives meaning. Either that or they feel they must make as much noise as possible to make it seem like they’re working.

I suggest giving her something to really worry about. Like, empty a bunch of pregnant black widow spiders in her office.

Does she send every single stupid piece of email with high priority, and cc people who have no business being cc’d? Does she spout terminology that she doesn’t understand? Becuase I think I work with her sister, up her in the deep north, ya, sure, yewbetcha.

I bet a few of her relatives have moved to the DC area as well. I’m quite sure that several of them work at my company, too.

Twenty hours in meetings for a 47 minute task?

Are my taxes going towards her salary? :dubious:

Nurse Carmen: Thankfully, no. But, she has installed additional steps in front of her email box and telephone, so that the people she advises have to jump through hoops to talk to her… which pisses them off, and makes life for the receptionists hell, and generally slows… things… down. So, in that regard, she is generating useless work for others.

As for spouting things about technology she doesn’t understand, well, she stresses and vents about things she does not understand. When I try to explain the technology involved and why it’s necessary in order to clear up the misconceptions and (hopefully) stave off some of the confusion, she usually likes to cut me off (in meetings. mind you) saying “Oh, I don’t care how it works…”. I’m on the edge of making the point that, if she doesn’t care enough to understand the problem, she shouldn’t open her mouth thinking she has a solution (or sees flaws in the carefully designed and chosen solutions).

Lel, unless you live in Georgia, likely not. If you do live in Georgia, then still likely not; I’m not sure, but public universities still generate most of their revenue from non-tax sources.

Don’t get me totally wrong about this person. She’s a bright individual. She’s very competent at her job. She just needs to stay in her realm of responsibility, and quit making everyone else’s life hell.

Like I said, there’s a time to siddown, shut up and work. I think if she bothered to do this instead of diving into stressfests, everyone around her would be 1) happier 2) far more productive.

I certainly would, as I waste one hell of a lot of time trying to stave off questions and panics due to her anxiety level.

I tend to pause importantly – in these stress kitten meetings – look Stress Kitten in the eye and say, “Please. Stop. Trying. To Help. We’ve got enough to do with your last three brilliant ideas.”

Ask for a raise. Because if you were able to accomplish this near-impossible feat on time and under budget, then they obviously aren’t paying you enough.

"I dinna think the engines can take i’, Cap’n! We’rr lookin’ at a mel’dohn fur cerr’in! Ye’ve go’ta gi’ me morre time! She’ll fly apar’ at the…

"…

“Ah, neverr mind.”

:smiley:

Seriously, whenever that happens to me (every now and then), I call it a bonus. They think they’re giving me some heinous task that’ll keep me busy for two days, but really it’s two hours of work and fourteen hours of fucking off.

I used to work with 2 guys - one a stress monkey, the other a ‘the sky is falling’ type. Just walking by and saying ‘there is a bug in the code’ would set up a feedback loop between them. Their conversation would spiral from ‘a bug in the code’ to ‘the product is crap, they’re going to fire us all and close the department!’ in about 5 minutes.

Dogzilla: Heh, I really should, I really should, I really should. I’ve been here just over 6 months though, and the track record isn’t obvious enough to bring it up in meetings (though everyone else in the office does acknowledge her modus operandi, and laments it). I’m keeping this in mind, however… and on my shelf of Useful Tools.

Terminus Est: Oooo, if I only could… I feel fortunate to be employed right now, and I’m still pretty new to the group here. I’m drastically underpaid for what I’m actually doing (though honestly, I think that applies to probably a good third of the people working in public universities). I am developing a nice reputation for being dependable in a crunch, though. :slight_smile:

Cervaise: I’m considering a short vacation to stave off burnout, as it were. Despite finishing this particular task, the daily requirements of my work heap far more on me than I can ever get done (not really anyone’s fault, it’s mostly the nature of what I do). Because of this, there’s always another dozen things waiting for their turn. Not that this is a problem; I like being busy, and I like getting things done. The only real lament I have over the workload is that there are so many things which require attention, that I end up spreading myself a little thin at times.

Okay, a lot thin.

I hang on mostly because this is the only time I think I’ll ever see “thin” again. :slight_smile:

kferr: I worked for a couple years in what I like to refer to as the Most Dysfunctional Workplace, Ever. Some day I intend to write out my experiences (they never really tainted me, it was just… interesting… to be surrounded by it all) for others to enjoy, but I’ve yet to take the time. Hmmmm. Maybe a weekend posting.

When I worked for a large telecommunications company, for a time I reported to a person (Deborah) who HAD to create stress. For that reason, she would procrastinate on tasks and generally wait until the last possible second to do anything. When the fan was just about to stop turning due to all the excrement gumming it up, she would call multiple people in different departments, invoke the name of the VP of our division (“Mac needs this report by 2 p.m. today!”) and generally get everyone scurrying around like ants when their hill is kicked.

Although I tend to procrastinate, I was nowhere near this person’s league. I once had someone in another department ask me point-blank “Is this for Deborah?” when I needed some help. When I said “No,” he then replied “Okay, then I’ll help you.”

Your co-worker will get her comeuppance eventually. Give it time.

Does the phrase “stressed for success” ring a bell?

Yep, you just described about 60% of my work week.