And here’s a new one:
People who marry someone who’s already had several divorces, thinking that this time it’ll be different. Or worse: marrying someone whose exes were murdered or mysteriously disappeared. Or the worst: Marrying someone who’s actually been convicted of murdering their exes.
Listening uncritically to advice from people on the Internet, especially on message boards or comment sections.
Staying together ‘for the children’! Grow the Hell up, put your adult panties on and do what you know needs to be done. You’re not fooling anyone, by the way. Your kid is only three and knows this ain’t right, why don’t you?
Stewing your children in the dysfunction of adults who are withdrawing into silent, bitter shells of their former selves. Your children think you are stone cold. Because you freaking are! You are bequeathing them a lifetime of being attracted to that which is familiar, like everyone else, only they are drawn to dysfunctional potentials. Well done!
This is partly why so many rabidly angry teens come from two parent homes. You know, the one’s where it all seems sugar and peaches on the outside. Yet the children seem seething volcanoes, with hair triggers.
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WTF??? I never called you a homophobe, or even suggested it, and I never slung accusations around. I was simply pointing out that my partner and I may be an exception to your get-married-before-living-together statement. It had absolutely nothing to do with you, personally. I do applaud your political and social support, but there’s something else going on here that I don’t understand. Really, my initial comment had nothing to do with you personally, and I really can’t understand how you’re taking it that way.
So if you continue to take every single word of mine personally, including words that aren’t even mine, go ahead. I’m through here.
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Ok, I see we’re doing the “taking everything in the worst possible spirit because it’s in writing dance”. I’ll try again.
I honestly though you we’re being snippy. And that you’r comment meant, more or less, “We’ll that’s fine and dandy for you heterosexuals. But since I can’t get married, I GUESS MY RELATIONSHIP ISN’T GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU, YOU DAMNED HETEROSEXUAL OPPRESSORS! RAH RAH RAH”
I see I was mistaken. It was an honest mistake. Can we put it behind us? I like you, I’d prefer it if you at least didn’t think me completely insane. Peace?
Attributing to malice what can be explained by incompetence. Septima/panache seem to have resolved there little foray into that kind of thinking, but I know some people who have really hurt there careers and personal lives through there dedication to the idea that something was done maliciously. They live in a bizarre world where every action carries intent. I have NO IDEA what is in their own experience that would lead them to believe this is the case, as no one always acts with perfection intentionality. But one bad roll from the lunch lady and they decide that bitch is out to get them and destroy who knows what possibilities.
Every watch Prison Wives?
Those women will marry a man who they already know is in prison for life and then bitch because they can’t spend any time with him.
Life is so unfair, so what if he killed someone, they KNOW he is a good man and it’s just so unfair that they can’t have sex and make babies because he would be such a good father.
They will spend all their money on lawyers and appeals, drag their kids to the prison to meet their new step daddy and even move all over the country every time the inmate gets transferred.
Of course they rave about how much the he loves them, that no other man every paid them so much attention, no other man listened to them, understands them, makes them feel special.
What thehell else is the guy going to do? He’s in jail.
Of course he’s going to tell you he loves you, of course he’s going to call you everyday, of course he’s going to make you the center of his existence.
It’s not like he has anything else to do.
Besides if he told you the truth, that you are just a stupid little mark you’ll stop sending him money and paying for lawyers for his appeals.
Maybe.
Most of the women could hear the truth right out of his mouth and they’d still find excuses to believe they are the love of his life. He doesn’t mean it, he’s just having a bad day.
After all they know he is a good man and he really loves them.
He told them so, and he wouldn’t lie to the woman he loves.
Ooh, that gets me on a roll: Trouble With Exes.
Look, that person you hate right now, who makes your life a living hell? He/she was exactly the same when you chose them to make children with. They didn’t change, people do not change. They were exactly the same, you knew what they were, and yet you chose them, eyes open, as the co-parent of your child. Shut up and live with your choice, instead of being a toxic bitter ex.
Not using insurance properly is stupid.
I haven’t made a home insurance claim in 25 years!
Idiot. What’s it there for? Yes you’ve not had a fire or burglary but what about the accidental damage cover? Never spilt a glass of wine or cup of coffee?
I won’t need insurance on holiday.
Selfish prick. How do you think your family will like having to fly out and pay 1000s in hospital fees.
Every couple of months I’ll read about some dumbass teacher working illegally and with no insurance, get injured and then they’ll be asking for donations on Facebook and teaching message boards. Sorry you broke your pelvis, rock climbing without insurance, but you’re an idiot!
The last guy I know who didn’t have insurance was on his way to Shaolin to study Kung Fu. Apart from him just being an idiot his parents were going through a divorce, even after I asked him how they’d feel with the extra pressure of his hospital bills he still refused to get cover. Fortunately he remained uninjured, apart from the broken responsibility part of his head. Stupid.
You’d make an insurance claim for a spilled cup of coffee or glass of wine? Really?
Now, now, this isn’t about my sex life. This is about what comes after.
It seems equally selfish for someone old enough to pay for his own vacations and to (not) pay for his own insurance to expect his family to fly out to wherever he got hurt. What are they supposed to do? Stand around in some far away hospital until he’s stable enought to get flown to a one nearer to home?
There are teachers working illegally? As in off the books, no taxes no insurance? I thought the the insurance and pension were some of the few attractive things about teaching. I’m confused.
Since his parents seemed to actually be a factor in his decision-making process, I gather this is a fairly young guy. Fairly young people, and even many, many older people, can’t afford insurance, especially these days. Even basic coverage is hundreds of dollars a month. If you want a not-outrageous premium, your deductible will be outrageous (like several thousand dollars outrageous). Of course going without is a risk, but what are they supposed to do? Wrap themselves in bubble wrap and never leave the house?
At least now, younger people can get covered under their parents’ health policy.
I think there’s a difference between choosing your adventures wisely and wrapping yourself in bubble wrap. If I didn’t have insurance, I wouldn’t find it wise to focus all my traveling on surfing, mountain-climbing, and fugu-eating contests. But that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t travel at all.
But this kind of makes you wonder…if the guy didn’t have any insurance, was it stupid of him to be practicing martial arts in the first place?
I don’t understand why people stay in shitty relationships. Why? It really irritates me when they stay with some fuckhole for years and then constantly complain about said fuckhole. If someone acts like an inconsiderate, selfish asshole all the time, leave that person! Because after a certain point in the relationship you can’t continue to blame the other person. After a certain point, you are the only one to blame for your stupid choices. Honestly, when people talk about what a bitch/asshole their ex-SO was for years and years, I have very little sympathy.*
*cases of domestic violence notwithstanding, 'cuz I think genuine fear is a legitimate factor
Absolutely, if it permanently stained some fabric. That’s why you pay for accidental damage cover. I worked in a bank for a while and looked through the accounts. More money is made, per employee (retail), from insurance than any other product.
I suppose it depends on the injury; a broken bone doesn’t require family to attend, just pay the bills, although the teacher with the broken pelvis had complications and needed several surgeries.
This is teaching overseas, teaching English as a foreign language (TEFL). It’s still the wild west in many parts of Asia. Lots of people are having to work illegally as the companies drag their heals in getting the requisite paperwork sorted out. A lot of the teachers are early 20s, just out of college and think they’re invincible.
Youngish, late twenties. He was taking a sabatical from work and traveling the globe. One of his friends I met (in Hong Kong) had a very bad spill when windsurfing; he got caught by a gust and flew onto land - concrete. Bust his jaw in three places. He didn’t have insurance for dangerous sports so he changed his clothes and said he tripped.
On a baseball forum I visit, a recurring question dads ask is whether they should keep their kid back a school year or not, so’s he’d [sic] have a better chance of dominating.
I think they have the right idea, but should keep the kid back 5 years instead of one.
There are selfish assholes who have been brought up to expect mommy and daddy to bail them out of their recreational injuries in another country? Learn something new every day.
I see your point. Faling to buy insurance is just the most recent bad decision in that family.
OK, that makes sense. I thought you were talking about some bizarro school district tucked into an out of the way corner of the US.
Illegal overseas work, that’s got bad decisions written all over it.
I used to work at fairly prestigious cancer research hospital and I would have to walk through a cloud of cigarette smoke to get through the main entrance. Both patients and staff were out there puffing away. The office of one of the psychiatrists I temped for reeked of cigarette smoke and she had one of those deep raspy voices. You’d think they would know better, right?
People first light up for any number of reasons thinking they’ll just quit when it becomes inconvenient. My mom’s reason was because she was told it gave her hands something to do when she was socializing. This was back in the '50s.
I read somewhere (maybe one of the Freakonomics books or the blog?) that smokers counterintuitively tend to be MORE knowledgeable about the risks of smoking that nonsmokers.
But I know a woman who really takes the cake. She used to frequent tanning salons and eventually developed skin cancer. Did she stop tanning? Nope. Still goes!
I was speaking more to the guy looking to study Kung Fu in Hong Kong. I’ve asked someone who practiced martial arts, and unless you have a douchebag instructor who is pushing the students faster than they’re ready for, it’s not any more dangerous than most other sports, like soccer. Good instructors won’t let you practice full-contact until you’re skilled enough to effectively defend yourself. (If you have a bad instructor, that’s an entirely different issue.) So I wouldn’t really think of what this guy was doing as any more inherently dangerous than occasionally leaving the house and taking his chances crossing the street.
Gah. I knew health insurance was a big fat scam, but not even covering certain kinds of accidents?! Seriously? WTF do we pay premiums FOR?
This is exactly what I’m talking about. For a lot of people, the level of insurance they can afford is barely better than nothing, because the insurance companies will find all sorts of excuses why this or that isn’t covered (unless you give them an extra $300 a month). I’ve told this story before, but I’m currently in the awkward position of having insurance that actively prevents me from accessing healthcare. I’m still having an internal debate whether it would be more cost-effective to drop coverage and take my chances (where I’d at least qualify for sliding-scale fees) until the reforms kick in next year, or if being uninsured for half a year would end up screwing me over, or even whether the reforms will be helpful enough that I can continue to have insurance.
I can’t wait for full-scale healthcare reform, man.