Everyone occassionally gets into the nothing fight with their GF or SO. The result is usually some sort of punishment - sleeping on the couch, police taping the room in half, what have you.
So what is the dumbest thing you or your SO has done to punish the other person. I’ll go first.
My GF was so mad at me, she said she didn’t even want to use my alarm clock to wake up in the morning. She then proceeded to set another alarm clock for about the same time.
When we first moved to LA we had a huge hassle with the moving company we used and ended living in our new apartment for 3 weeks with only the stuff we had brought in our small car. (dodge neon). So this probably happened because we were bored senseless.
We had a fight about something pretty small and refused to speak to each other for about 10 days. While basically confined in our apartment, with nothing to do. That was pretty stupid.
I once threw a pair of ruby earrings my ex gave me in the bay. He was being a controlling jerk. Still. Ruby earrings in the bay was a pretty stupid idea, no matter how much I enjoyed the look on his face after.
Another ex once flushed my car keys down the toilet to keep me from leaving. Incredibly stupid; I just took his spare.
In 26 years of marriage, we’ve never had what I would call a fight. We have had brief, pissy little disagreements on occasion, but nothing that rises to the level of a fight. I have never yelled at him, nor has he ever yelled at me.
The only time I can recall when I deliberately did something to punish my husband was the time that I made a fancy dinner for him, and he didn’t come home until many hours after he said he would. I ate my half of the dinner and fed the rest of it to our pet rats. The rats loved it, so at least somebody was happy that evening.
Everything was fine between us the next day. Grudge-holding just isn’t our thing.
My husband stopped talking to me for about 3.5 months once. It wasn’t really after an argument, he was just mad at me and wouldn’t talk to me except for single-syllable responses when absolutely necessary (“Did you feed the dogs?” “Yes”).
It got really old after a while.
My Hubby and I have been together for eight years, and we’ve never had a “fight” either. On occasion, we do disagree (we’re both people who love to debate) but we both are able to respect one anothers’ opinion. We’re both mature enough to admit when we’re wrong and apologize, as well.
I’m glad you said that. I’ve had people tell me that any married couple that doesn’t fight doesn’t really have a good, loving relationship. I think that’s horse pookey. There’s a lot of love in avoiding a fight and conceding a point even when you think the other person is wrong.
Same here. Married for 9 years. Two disagrements. One, mostly due to a misunderstanding, and stress from outside influence from my family.
My Wife may do some things that agravate me a little. And I’m sure I do things that agravate her. We married at 37. So we already knew how to take care of ourselves. If something really bugs you, a gental reminder is fine. But never forget that you also do things that bug your SO. Can’t be helped. We all have our strong spots, and our weak ones.
On the other hand, my brother has not talked to our mom for a year. That hurts. He also said that he remembers something I said to him when I was 9 years old, and will never forget. 
Well. I sure forgot.
Grudges are nothing more than an excuse to try to prove you where ‘right’. But you really don’t have anyway to defend your position.
When I’m mad at my boyfriend, I’ll erase some of his shows from the Tivo. Of course, they’re usually the ones he’ll never watch anyway. Yeah, I’m such a bitch.
Once, we went to eat at this kick ass Indian place and took home some rice that we both were totally in love with. We got into a fight that night and the next day I ate the rest of the rice and didn’t give him any. That was over a year ago and he still hasn’t let me forget it. 
Wow, I’m in shock at the long term couples that have never had a fight. I’ve always believed that you’ve got to fight in order to be healthy. Living with someone isn’t easy. You’re going to get annoyed, you’re human. That irritation has to get out somehow. I look at it like a volcano. The longer the time between eruptions, the bigger the eruptions are going to be.
I’d say my SO and I fight on a somewhat regular basis. Never for long, though. Maybe an hour or two of yelling then not talking. Of course, we usually fight over stupid stuff that doesn’t really matter anyway. A week or so ago we had a fight that actually lasted over night and I almost went insane. I do not deal well with the silent treatment.
One time I was really mad at my husband. Over what I have no idea. He went out. I went to the store and bought myself an obscene amount of chocolate to comfort myself, came home and ate it. I got horrible indigestion afterward. Yeah, that really showed him. :smack:
The WryGuy and I have been together almost 19 years, 17 of 'em married, and we really never fight. Disagreements, small arguments, pissing matches on rare occasions, but never really fights. (In fact, the one time he and I quarreled to the point where voices were raised, our daughter freaked out and asked us if we were going to get divorced.)
We can almost always discuss things calmly, but when he’s well and truly furious, he washes the dishes. Go figure.
Of course we get annoyed at one another. That’s part of being human, but we never let those little annoyances fester. We have an agreement on this-- whenever one person does something that annoys or bothers the other, we discuss it. “Honey, I’m getting really annoyed that you’re leaving wet towels on the floor. Could you please hang them up?”
“Oh, sorry! Didn’t notice I was doing that.”
Whenever I get really mad at my boyfriend, I drink a lot or stop eating. It’s an effective punishment as he worries and it does make him feel bad. Naturally it isn’t good for me, but it works. It’s only recently that I’m learning to confront him as direct confrontation upsets both of us more than the not eating (me) or the overeating and spending all night in the truck in front of the local 7-11 (him). I think we’d both rather do things that hurt ourselves than have open discord in the house. That’s just the way we deal with stuff.
No, I disagree. We’ve been married for ten years, and though we’ve had disagreements, we’ve never yelled at each other or fought in that kind of way. And as time goes by, we’ve gotten better at that, so that it becomes rarer. I can’t say that I feel ‘pressure’ building up that has to explode in yelling; when he does something that bugs me, I can either tell him about it or work around it (because after all, I do some pretty annoying things too, that he doesn’t bug me about).
(One big thing that has cut down on our disagreements is that I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut until I’ve calmed down (he was never like that in the first place). If I was annoyed about something I would want to bring it up and hash it over and make a thing of it, and usually it would turn into a mess with hurt feelings and stuff. Then later I’d feel dumb because it was a stupid thing to get mad about in the first place. So for a while now I’ve been trying a new strategy, where I wait until I’m calm to discuss a problem, so that I can assess it properly. If it’s really an issue, we can discuss it–but most of the time, once I’ve calmed down, I realize that it was something really lame and more about my mood than about his behavior, and so I’m glad I didn’t pick at him about it.)
Er, sorry. Back to the OP; I’ve never done anything worse than eat all the leftovers.
I’m in the same boat with some of the others here - married eight years, not one argument. We can talk about anything. More importantly, we are able to behave in such a way that nothing we do is cause for a fight. We’ve both seen too much of it in other couples, and we have decided never to emulate them.
If the wife and I are a’feudin’ and a’fussin’, I like to sneak into the bedroom, take out all her bras and shorten the strap on one side of each of them.
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You’re a genius! Bwa ha ha haaa.
Oh, hang on, when that happens anyway, she gets me to reset them in situ. That would just make extra work for me.
Ditto on the happily married stuff: we had our tenth anniversary a couple of months back, and we don’t fight. We’ve never fought, thown plates, raised our voices, sworn at each other, or slept on the sofa. No, we ain’t saints - we have disagreements, although we’re compatible enough on most stuff that they’re fairly rare and inconsequential.
There’s a mutual understanding, though, that any difference of opinion gets resolved immediately, not left to fester: there’s perhaps a perverse advantage in my wife not having English as her first language, and my Japanese being pretty shaky, in that there’s no margin for misunderstanding. No sulking because neither of us is a mind-reader: if we have a problem, our cards get laid on the table.
What it comes down to, I think, is a love based on respect: we respect each other enough to see each other’s point of view on most things, sensible enough not to care about the small stuff, and mature enough to apologise if either of us in the wrong.
You wanna talk STUPID? During the Heavy Drinking Days ™, we once got into a fight and smashed nearly every glass item in the house. 15 years later, I still occasionally find shards of glass when I do a deep cleaning.
After a big fight, I once made his favorite meal. But only enough for me. And I ate it in front of him.
Wow. I couldn’t live like that. So what finally broke the silence?