I don’t usually watch this show, and I certainly don’t usually start threads about it. But today’s episode was just disturbing. It also had my irrational prejudices running into overdrive.
From what I could tell (tuned in a little late), dad had some long always gone from home job, and mom was a photog. (Which means she should have some flexibility in her schedule, right?) But there were five kids: two teen girls and three young boys - probably in the 3-7 year old range. Here’s the twist: dad was gone 24/7 pretty much and mom delegated the childrearing responsibility to the teen girls. They disciplined, fed, soothed, and otherwise took care of their brothers. I’m not sure what the mom did when she got home besides bitch about how hard it was to be a mom.
For all the talk about how shitty teens are nowadays, these girls did every-f***in’-thing in the house. They both looked way too skinny and had those dark circles around their eyes - the combination of stress and no sleep. Of course dad was distant and domineering. Way to push your daughters towards Porn Valley, asshole. (Nanny made the point that was their opposite sex role model, so I guess they’ll be doing S&M porn.)
What made me uncomfortable was once again I saw the same family dynamic:
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[li]Large number of kids had by parents who have demanding jobs/careers/no interest in being involved parents[/li][li]Dad who sees his job as solely providing financial support to the family and nothing else[/li][li]Kids homeschooled (in this case, they were taking on-line classes)[/li][/ul]
All of this made me think they were of some deep religious belief. You know, with condoms, the pill, and buttsex so readily available, I can’t fathom how two parents who had children already would start the cycle again so late. (I could be wrong here. Also, I guess the family could be blended and the teens were from a previous relationship, and the younger boys the offspring of this new relationship.)
And then there’s the homeschooling bit. As a former public schoolteacher, I have a bias towards educating children outside of the home - it is a rare bird who has the capacity to present diverse perspectives and teaching styles that I believe is so essential to kids’ development. It’s almost as if everybody who appears on this show thinks they can do a better job than public (or even parochial) schools but they are so woefully pathetic as teachers, if they exert any effort at all. Yeah, your kid would know where to score some weed if they went to school with… you know, other kids, but they probably wouldn’t need copious counseling when they start their own families.
Anyway, the show left a horrible taste in my mouth, and it had me thinking bad thoughts about people who have a lot of kids and homeschool. Of course that’s irrational; I’m sure there are people raising large families who do a fine job. But it seems for some people homeschooling is a way to essentially keep the kids out of school and from having a life… and having indentured servants in the house gratis. Anyone else see this trainwreck?