Surreal Pussy Loser

So earlier this evening, there’s a knock on my door, and I open it to find a woman I don’t recognize. She’s wearing a turban and some kind of Sikh-looking caftan thing. She’s alone.

She’s holding the “lost cat” poster that’s been gracing our neighborhood bulletin boards since early May.

Earnestly, gazing at me with an open and sincere look, she says, “Someone told me you might have this cat here.”

Now I’ve been through this before, and I’m starting to get a weird feeling. In fact, flat-out surreal.

“No,” I explain, perhaps a bit more abruptly than an observer might expect. “The cat we have is a different cat. He’s black and white, but he has a mustache, unlike the cat in that photo, and his ear is nicked.”

“Are you sure?” she says, politely doubting me.

“Yes,” I say, “We’ve had him a lot longer than the cat in the poster has been missing. Who told you we have the cat?”

She doesn’t answer, says her goodbye, and leaves.

I look out the window and I see her with two older adults. They’re gazing at our bedroom window, where our cat often lounges, and she’s explaining something to them. The man, heavy-set and mustachioed, turns to glance at our kitchen window – I can’t tell if he sees me – and shakes his head as if in disgust.

What’s weird about this conversation is that I’ve already had it, with the cat’s “owner,” a young woman from a few buildings down. TWICE. She’s already come to our door, already asserted “someone told her” the cat was here, already doubted me. It was practically the same conversation on her end. I had been nicer that time, because I hadn’t been troubled by weird deja-vu.

Then later on we met her on the sidewalk while walking our dogs, and had almost the same conversation with her, which was weird, because it’s like she didn’t remember or wouldn’t acknowledge she’d talked to us just a few days previously.

You see, I think the woman I talked to today is the same woman, now dressed and made up completely differently, having the same conversation, a third time.

So I called my wife.

She called the phone number from the poster and spoke to the “owner,” whom we had previously spoken to. The woman confirmed she had visited me today, wearing a turban, and said “I don’t wear it all the time.” She then asserted that she’d lost the cat when a maintenance man left a hole in her screen and he chased a squirrel out.

I got cut off from talking to my wife (she’s at an event and had to speak with some people) so I don’t know any more right now.

However, when we’d talked to her the second time, while walking the dogs, she’d said at that time that “There’s a hole in my screen and the cat goes in and out all the time, but I haven’t seen him in a few days.” I said at the time, “if the cat comes and goes as he pleases, you don’t have a cat, you’re just near a cat.” That’s why I put quotes around “owner.”

So it looks to me like this woman has changed her story to make herself look more responsible. More to the point, three times now she’s asserted that someone she won’t name TOLD HER we have her cat. She can SEE our cat in the window, and obviously has, since she was looking for him today. She doesn’t need to say anything about being told, she could just say, “Hey, I saw that cat in the window.” She can SEE the cat LOOKS DIFFERENT from her cat – anyone who loves an animal can identify it from another similarly-colored animal with significantly different facial markings. She knows we know she’s looking for her cat and she knows we know she doesn’t fully believe us – so she comes back IN DISGUISE and acts like she’s never talked to me before? And says exactly the same things?

To be fair, we did take our cat in after finding him wandering outside, so someone may be misinterpreting that to her. However, we took our cat in during DECEMBER, five months before her cat disappeared. Furthermore, we went around the neighborhood talking to people before we took him in, and found out that everyone was slipping him food, but no one knew where the guy who had “owned” him had gone. When the weather hit ten degrees one night, the cat was crying piteously on the sidewalk, shivering and thin, and we decided we’d had enough and took him in. He’s been sitting in our window quite frequently over the last five months before her cat disappeared.

Now if I was a cat person, and someone came around asking about a cat who looked a lot like mine, then said they’d taken him in, then I saw the cat who looked a lot like mine sitting in a window for months, I think I’d remember it, and not ask with a blankly earnest face if it’s my cat. I’d know.

Is this woman stalking our cat? Why does she think we don’t remember her visits? Who are the angry-looking older people she kept in hiding outside my view while talking to me…her parents, maybe? Is she just bereft and grasping at straws, or bunny-boiling crazy?

If I were you, I’d get your cat microchipped to help prove it’s yours. :eek:

[Thomas Anderson]

Woah.

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Sorry, I don’t have much more than that. I’m as rational a person as you seem to be, so I definately can’t wrap my mind around just what the hell is going on either.

Do keep us updated though. :slight_smile:

Why don’t you just show her the cat so she can see for herself it’s the wrong one?

She thinks you took her cat, and she thinks you’re trying to bullshit her that you didn’t. Your cat probably looks enough like hers from your window to convince her, and she knows you’ve taken hers in before.

My guess is that she’s just honestly mistaken and probably can’t figure out why you’re being such a dick about it by continually denying you took her cat when she can see it in the window.

What you should do is bring your cat to her directly so she can see it close up and satisfy herself that it’s not hers.

Try to have a little heart. The lady’s obviously distraught about it. Your allegations about her “changing her story” are nitpicky at best, and telling her it wasn’t really her cat if it came and went through a hole in the screen was pointlessly snarky and mean. Obviously she cares about it enough to keep looking for it, and it sounds like she’s trying different approaches with you because she simply doesn’t believe you.

Show her your cat. Show a little compassion. I think it’s highly doubtful that she wants to steal your cat (and calling so much attention to herself would not be a very artful method for doing that anyway). I think she honestly thinks you’ve got HER cat.

Is it possibly that your cat was seen outside, eating from a can of tuna that was known by smugglers to be laced with Burmese blood rubies?

It sounds to me like there is a very remote possibility that you may have “her cat” and that your cat is getting some meow mix on the side. Is your cat overweight?

“You’ve been seeing other owners? After I loved and sheltered and brought you in from the cold? How could you!” <sobs>

Ditto on what the others have said.

If she comes again with the sing, just point to the window and say “That cat?” when she answers in the affirmative, tell her to wait there and bring the cat out to her and point out the difference between your cat and the picture. I think the others are right, she probably really believes it’s her cat that you have. I’m going to guess it took a lot of courage for her to approach you three times and you probably won’t see her again. You might need to stop her when you see her walking past your house so you can bring the cat out.

OTOH, if you can do that and she keeps on doing it over and over and over, you might need to call the police and have them come and explain it to her once and for all. I only say that because if it continues it would just be weird and I’d be concerned that either there was something wrong with her (mentally) or you were being set up for something.

However. If she comes and sings Memory to you, you’re allowed to kick her ass.

Say what? We’ve never taken hers in before. We took OURS in in December because he was unattended, freezing, and starving, and we asked around the neightborhood for several weeks before making the decision and again afterward to make sure no one claimed him.

And if she thinks we’re trying to bullshit her, why is she repeating the same things word for word, instead of questioning or getting emotional?

As others have suggested why not just do a show and tell with your cat and the poster side by side. Should settle the issue once and for all.

This is ridiculous. The OP has done everything that should be expected of him. This woman is a loon, and there’s no reason the OP needs to cater to her. If she comes back, the OP should call the police.

And if she says it’s hers?

Not only that, but it sounds like something a cat thief might say.

“Your cat looks like mine.”
>“That is not the cat you’re looking for.”
“But my cat is missing…”
>“You never had a cat!”

Also, there’s no rule that says someone has to wear a turban every day. Except maybe Sikhs, but I’m pretty sure that only applies to men.

ETA: Not implying that you are a cat thief, just saying that a more sympathetic, less judgmental response on her part might have resulted in less suspicion on hers.

Exactamundo. This is why you don’t cater to a crazy person.

Yes, because acting like a dickhead is the optimal solution to all socially awkward problems.

There are some weird kids up the mountain from us. They were coming to our house every single day. They would come in and just wander around. They are odd. We moved here in February and brought our cat with us. The kid says to me that it looks just like his cat that he lost. I told him she was a gift from a friend of mine in Florida and that we brought her with us. She is not your cat. Our cats name is Pepper. His cats name was Paris. Over several visits, he keeps mentioning how much it looks like his cat, he misses his cat, blah blah blah. I made it very clear to him that it was NOT his cat. I’d be happy to call my friend that has my cats mother and have HER tell him it was not his cat, etc. My cat is about 7 months old right now, he had his cat for several years.

Turns out, his cat was a male. Mine is a female. I think that is what finally convinced him that it was not his cat.

You are not dealing with a normal person. However, I agree that if she approaches you again, drag out the cat, but make sure she has the picture so you can compare. I’d also get the cat chipped right quick AND be very careful about keeping the cat contained. That chick ain’t right and I wouldn’t put it past her to take your cat. Have a way to prove it is yours. And lock your windows.

A turban? Really? (cue creepy music)

The description of the woman searching for the cat does make her behavior sound kind of odd but I take it from her choice in “disguises” that she is from another culture. Is this the case? It might be unthinkable to her to just come out and say “I think you are mistaken and I would like to see that cat a little closer. I think it could be mine, and other neighbors told me that you took in a stray cat. May I please have a look?” the way a bold westerner might without hesitation if searching for their lost pet. In a situation where someone just can’t come out and confront you like that but doesn’t believe your story all the same, then I guess it is conceivable they could come up with a scheme right out of I Love Lucy and try again wearing a disguise. Or maybe to her it isn’t even a disguise, maybe she just chose different clothes that day and came back to ask again because she doesn’t believe you, and you are misreading her intentions. Personally, I would have invited them in (if I was confident they really were my neighbors), allowed them them to take an up close look at the cat and asked them if there was anything further I could do to help them find theirs.

If the woman comes back, she will be harrassing the OP. That is a problem that is best handled by the police. I don’t see how calling the police to handle a problem best handled by the police makes one a dickhead, but YMMV (possibly because you are just as stupid as all hell).