Experienced my first kiss a few months before I turned 18 with my first girlfriend. My only girlfriend to date as well (broke up over 3 years ago).
Being a typical guy, I’d say that talk about sex usually just makes the average guy horny. Which is great if all you’re looking for is a romp in the sack, but I’d side with other dopers here and say that a teenage guy probably won’t be the most satisfying way to cure your “itch.” Also, I’m probably one of the few guys you’ll ever get to admit that at first, I was terrible in bed. (“In theory there is no difference between theory and practice. But in practice, there is.”)
Boy, do I know the feeling. Everybody at my school hates me. When I’m not here, I’m a likeable person (I’ve made friends everywhere I’ve ever been on vacation), but the minute I set foot on New York soil I’m an evil heinous disgusting stupid bitchy chick not worth looking at. I don’t get it.
So, I guess you can consider this sympathy or whatever is preferable to you, pun.
Dude, join the club! My school hates people like me…people who “color outside the lines”, to put it nicely…oh well I guess New York public schools can’t appreciate a spiked dog collar when they see one on a girl!
my brother (who is 13) and I had a good talk about some problems in his life. Seems one of his best friends (a girl who is also 13) has been going out with this guy who is 16 … the guy pressures the girl into having sex with him … she finally does. Finds out he is 21 and engaged.
For the sweet love of caffiene!!! I did not have to deal with that crap when I was 13 !!!
To keep this on topic … I did not kiss a girl until after I graduated … then again, I did not really have any desire to (beyond the usual ramp up of hormones)
I don’t remember who, but someone mentioned that their first kiss was at a cast party or something to that effect. It was the same person who claimed to have an overly active sex drive. I think there must be a correlation between theatre people and horniness. During our fall musical, the upperclassmen do their best to corrupt the sophomores. By the first cast party, the most corrupted female and male receive the Golden Condom Award. The honor was bestowed upon me last year, and I am now performing my duty: “To serve and corrupt!” Just thought I’d share that with you all. I, like the person with the overactive sex drive, also started masturbating at a very eary age. I believe I was eleven or twelve. My friends are shocked when I tell them that because I denied it until last year, when I was severely tainted by a senior guy whom I miss dearly. Anyway, thank you all for your help, once again.
Ya know, you may be right about the horny/theater correlation! I’m not in theater but I’m in Stage Crew, which is related to theater and has a lot of student overlap. I think 7 out of the 10 crew members are also in theater class, and we all do the musical production. And horniness abounds. Of course, crew is mostly guys – the only girls are me and a freshman I don’t know – so horniness is a given, but I’m just as bad as the boys most of the time. It’s great fun, though.
I’m not involved w/theatre whatsoever, but I’m still extremely horny all the time…even right after sex! I’m an art major tho…so maybe it has something to do w/being a right-brained person…more creative, perhaps?
Don’t feel bad. I’m 18 now but when I was 16 I had the same problem. I am a generally good looking guy and I have an abundace of friends as well. Yet I hadn’t had a girlfriend or even gone out on a date. I seriously started to doubt myself. I thought I was a repugnant piece of Sh*t. A couple of weeks after I had been rejected by a girl I was head over heels about I met a girl online and we talked for about a week and decided that we must go out on a date because we were so horny and so compatible. On that very first date everything went fantastic and at the end I got my first kiss on my first date. I realized that there was nothing wrong with me. I guess i was meant to have her be my first girl friend and kiss.
I’ve have had a philosophy and a quote that I have lived by since around that time. It’s “The most important thing in life and comedy is… timing.” I truely believe and I want you to know that you shouldn’t worry because that person will come along at just the right time.
Hmmm…mayhaps you should get serotonin injections? I don’t know. I’ve never really had a seriously major “horny” propblem, but then again I’m also known for having an amazing amount of self-control. Maybe that’s something you should work on: self-control. It’s a nice thing to have. I know that when I was younger, I only wanted a boyfriend for the emotional closeness, the romance, that sorta thing. I guess I’m just different is all.
I’m 19, and have never had a boyfriend, nor gone on a date, nor anything. I’m pretty good looking, sociable, etc. But for the longest time I was just too damned lazy to bother with the responsibility and effort to have a relationship. And now that I feel like I can take one on, the only guys who seem interested in me are like, mid to late twenties…which is kinda wierd. I mean, /everyone/ in that age range seems to hit on me…but I don’t think I could possibly get involved with anyone that much older. So I just don’t know what to do with myself. Perhaps I’ll run off into the woods and live alone the rest of my life. whee.
You know, when I was in high school, I really angsted over having not been kissed. I went on plenty of dates, but none of them led to any sort of relationship, and I worried about whether I’d ever find anyone. Now, in retrospect, I realize that the problem was with everyone else- none of those people were at all right for me. Once I got to college, I eventually found someone I clicked with, and my problems went away.
The problem is that in high school, you’re thrown together with a bunch of people for no reason other than you’re young enough that adults can’t let you pursue a career, because if you do, you’ll take away one of their jobs, but if the adults don’t keep you occupied somehow, you’ll go around slashing tires. The result, as you may have noticed, is that most of the people you meet every day are either jerks or idiots who don’t really belong in the same classroom with you. Once you get to college, you have a very big pool of people to choose friends from, and a lot more leeway in choosing whom you hang out with (and whom you date.)
I give a hearty “amen” to this. My first kiss was when I was 15, at church, by an 18 I met that same night. I never saw him again. I realized the next day he had just used me. It was a very stupid time for me. My first french kiss that came at 16 was equally horrible but not as strange: this was a guy I had met online a few months before, around my age, and I was staying at his house. Talk about awkward!
Thank goodness, with practice and time, it gets better. (Okay, so maybe not practice, but it helps if the other person has an inkling as to what they’re doing)
