I had mixed motivations.
I have long considered that OP to be a jerk, and I generally avoid his posts/threads. But I looked into that out of curiosity, and probably would have left it without replying but for that comment.
When I was a kid on the NW side, Brazil nuts were nigger toes, we played nigger pile, and when doing eeny meeny we caught a nigger by the toe. And yes, people with deep tans (SPF?) were darker than a nigger. Haven’t used that word in decades, and am embarrassed at what was once unnoticed. It is a different world, and I often find myself unsure as to what is commonly accepted in terms of referring to peoples’ color, ethnicity, sexual preference, religion, whatever. I’m not overly attuned to PC, but neither do I want to unnecessarily/unintentionally insult anyone.
So, like I said, I think (know) the poster is a jerk, and I know he has in the past been disrespectful of our president. So it kinda leapt out at me for him to so casually toss out a phrase that I thought brought political and/or racial views into a thread that was ostensibly about him being happy his kid was home.
I thank you for clearing up my confusion. I don’t plan on using that phrase, but at least now I know that most people do not take any pause upon hearing/seeing it. Good to know.
I guess this is putting too much thought into it, but is it okay to say:
-You are tanned darker than (name of a specific dark-skinned person)
-You are tanned darker than “a person of mixed race”
-You are tanned darker than “an African American”
Does the appropriateness depend on your audience or the situation?
Yeah, like I said, I’m putting too much into this. And I knew I shouldn’t have posted anything - and wouldn’t if the poster were someone else. Given my impression of this individual, I had a whole hell of a lot more I could have posted there than just rolleyes. I don’t know that you get to consistently assume a certain persona and advance certain beliefs, and then turn around and expect others to give a shit about you and yours - not to mention feeling all warm and fuzzy.
And I’ve probably just ensured that this heads over to the Pit. Like we (or that poster’s ego) need another pitting of him. :rolleyes: (aimed at myself!)
I really should get back to work.