I just found two things rather ironic. First, this little factoid from the link:
Oh yeah, I can see abstinence-only is working real well! :rolleyes:
Second, when I clicked on the link there was a banner ad showing a smiling attractive, young woman with the caption “Anytime. Anywhere. Anyhow.” It was for an on-line university, but am I the only one who picked up a subtext of sexual readiness?
In American culture, sex is portrayed as a good, desirable thing, which every normal person wants to have and doesn’t get enough of. When I was growing up, calling someone a virgin was an insult, as it is today. The implication, I think, was that the person, man or woman, was too ugly and undesirable to have sex with if they were one. It seemed to be as insulting as “slut” was for women.
I’ve got one thing to say to the people who are trying to impose this sort of madness on people. I’ll tell you what, folks. As it happens, I’ve actually done a pretty good job of living by your sexual code. Nevertheless, I’ll agree to do so when you start doing so yourselves. You don’t want your kids to have sex before marriage? You teach them that. Me, I don’t have kids – I don’t believe in having kids outside of marriage, therefore I haven’t* – but if I did, I’d teach them what I believe, why, and that they are responsible for their own actions. I might even use a phrase my father used with me when I was bent on doing something he didn’t approve of: “If anything goes wrong, it’s your own stupid fault.” (OK, I’d drop the “stupid”.) I also suggest you not let me catch your kid calling mine a “slut” or a “virgin”, but then again, given my response to bullies, any kind of name-calling isn’t a real good idea. I see no reason why people who are too irresponsible to teach their own kids should try to teach mine.
*I also realize I’ve been lucky and I do keep that standard to myself. No disrespect was intended to those who do have kids outside of marriage.