I had about the world’s friendliest divorce.
We discussed separation in March (2005) and decided to try counseling. Filed papers in August. We agreed that I’d buy her out of the house. She moved into the guest room until she found a rental which happened in October. Right around that time the new mortgage came through and she got her money. Divorce was final in February. We’re still good friends.
This could be very different in the Netherlands, but AFAIK, generally, that’s the other spouse’s right, and the side that wants an immediate separation is usually the one that has to actually do the separating.
Well, things went downhill pretty fast. We’d had a very messy past as far as breaking up and getting back together was concerned. On top of that, I agreed to marry him even though I didn’t want to and didn’t really have feelings for him. In an attempt to do what was right for our daughter’s sake. Cut to a few months after the wedding and we’re fighting constantly. I’m a mental wreck, I’m having anxiety attacks over TMI stuff but involves intimacy. Finally, I had it. I told him I wasn’t happy and after some more fighting, a suicide threat (from him), it was over. I told him he could stay in the house as long as he needed but he didn’t want to. He moved out the next day to live with a friend 2 hours away and then the next week flew down to live with friends in L.A. About 2 months after that, he was back in Japan. It’s been two years now but because of various reasons (namely, me, I admit) we’re just now finalizing the divorce, but it’s been overall pretty amicable. Though he makes it very clear that he’s still very bitter and angry with me over the whole thing.
That seems like it would be hard for the kid. Not really judging because maybe there’s more to the story, but generally having a kid help move a parent out of the house because their parents are getting divorced doesn’t seem like a great idea.
I had the impression the kid was moving with her.