If you says so, but whether it’s 1950 or 2023, the science says that if she has slept with him, she’s been exposed not only to his social diseases, but the social diseases of every person he has been or still is hooking up with. To me, unicorn & dating means non-monogamous (and with multiple partners who also could be non-monogamous).
TL;DR It’s a risk. Is it my risk? No. It’s still a risk though.
No problem with the need for testing but you did say “drop him like a hot potato” which seems, well, kind of narrow-minded.
A local institution burned to the ground today.
It is hard to descibe their specialty dish, the “gatsby”, a Cape icon in the food industry. They were always mentioned when the best “gatsby” place was argued.
A gatsby is a 50cm loaf of bread, filled with soft (slap) chips, piled high with all sorts of ingredients from polony (balony? Processed meat sausage) to masala curried steak. Also seafood. Could include fried eggs. Rarely cheese. Usually some kind of chilli, often tomato sauce.
It is intended for 4 people to eat. It is like a lunatic looked at a burger and thought “how can we make this a) longer, and b) more interesting?”. They are so good, and in my opinion this was the home of the best.
@MrDibble will agree with my sentiment.
RIP Golden Dish. May you rise again.
Yes, that was exactly my objection. No problem with refusing to date non-monogamous people if you’re monogamous; it was the idea that a non-monogamous adult was inherently diseased. Frequent testing is sensible for all sexually active adults.
I’m a little extra stung because this prejudice is one of the reasons that gay people haven’t been allowed to donate blood—the false belief that we’re all having sex indiscriminately, and therefore inherently diseased.
You can have a non-monogamous lifestyle if you’re careful with your sexual health and with your emotions and honest with your partners. It’s the people who are dishonest with their partners that seem more of a risk.
What I Meant…was its so rare, to me, to meet a guy who doesn’t want sex right away with any available partner is like seeing a unicorn. I wasn’t aware of the other usage. He’d likely been single a while before me.
I’m more of a Cozy Corner man myself, then Aneesa’s, then Wembley Roadhouse, but this is still sad news.
He has bcbs, but a couple of years ago he was supposed to go to rehab and they said they didn’t par with MFB. They sent him to dump of a nursing home instead. The doctors and social workers seem confident they can make it happen. We will see.
I knew exactly what you meant @SuntanLotion. Thus my comment about snakes with hips and chickens with lips. I had no idea what the other folks were even talking about. I feel naive.
I went home for Thanksgiving. My mom commented on more than on occasion that my hair is getting really thin. Which just confirms my fear that everyone can tell how much my hair has been falling out and that I’ll be bald by the time I’m 35. I’m a woman btw. Thanks mom.
Wee Weasel just ripped three pages in one of my favorite books. “Hey, be gentle with that, okay?”
“Is this being gentle?”
rriiiiip
7 days cooped up with a 3 year old is too damned much.
Even my husband’s starting to lose it, and he’s much more patient than I am.
I am actively looking forward to returning to work tomorrow.
Not to be That Poster, but have you brought it up to your doctor at all? Thinning hair was one of the first signs that my thyroid was failing.
I wasn’t trying to sting anyone. The gay people that I know through business, as friends, as family, as neighbors are all monogamous and easily half of them have married their partners. I’m happy for them I’ve long thought that the blood donation restriction was antiquated and stupid and that it’s the MAGAts who push to keep it in place.
Honestly, I always thought that the idea of the multiple partner lifestyle was just a porn meme so the Ben Shapiro’s of this world wouldn’t get bored dating their hand on a Friday night.
Well, Halloween season is over; time for me to take this Dear Abby costume back to the costume rental place. The wig made me look awful anyway.
Best Wishes however it goes.
I have a friend who’s in a polyamorous relationship. It mainly seems like an immense amount of work, meeting everyone’s emotional needs and the demands of, essentially, two households. No one’s making a porn movie about them!
I already have hypothyroidism and am on synthroid. My levels were checked about 6 months ago and were fine but it’s worth checking again. I honestly thought it was covid hair loss again. I’ve had covid 4 times and the first time caused me to lose a LOT of hair. It was growing back but now it’s thinning again. I should probably go in. It just seems vain. I’m also really embarrassed about it.
To quote Family Guy ‘Jim Henson had a wait and see attitude- and now we have wrong-sounding muppets!’
It’s a genuine symptom. Whether it’s a symptom of something serious I am entirely unqualified to say. It’s probably a good idea to schedule a visit with a doctor.
Oh, I didn’t think you were. I was just saying, that’s why your comment landed harshly with me, personally. My issue, not yours.
One of the local tv newscasters had a story on this. ‘When I go to donate blood,I say yes I have had sex with another man. That man is my husband. We’re monogamous and legally married. That question is bigoted.’
Vanity is not a bad thing. Overweening vanity is. You hardly sound overweening.
Setting aside the health issues I’m not competent to comment on, there are plenty of socially acceptable completely normal ways for a woman to offset thinning hair. You should feel no discomfort in pursuing that if the fancy strikes you.
My late first wife and her mother both had naturally thinning hair as they got older. I can see where my wife got it from. And it was distressing to both of them.
I’ve got age appropriate levels of male-pattern balding and I’m sanguine about it, but all else equal I’d rather have more of my old hair back.
As do I. But, as an Olde Dude™ it’s kind of expected. For women, it’s more of a… surprise? Issue? Emotion?
My hair started thinning at an alarming rate when I was in my early 40’s, and I was worried for a while about whether I’d have the panache to pull off the bald woman look (I suspect my skull is too lumpy to look good shiny). This is, of course, a difficult transition for many men, but I suspect it’s worse for women, if only because it’s so much rarer. I don’t think it’s at all vain or trivial to be concerned about it, even aside from any health problems.
The good news for me, and I hope for slalexan, was that after my health issues were a bit better under control, the hair stopped falling out and even thickened back up a little. If it weren’t completely gray on top, I don’t think I’d even notice!