Ah, birth control.
I think talking about birth control is a very good idea! It is an issue in most of our lives, almost everyone has to deal with it, messing it up has serious consequences, and still we don’t talk about it.
I’ve used the Pill, Depo, condoms alone (not a good plan), condoms with foam, condoms with sponge (no mess!), and finally an IUD.
A few years ago I started getting migraines. Estrogen makes them worse, so no pills or Depo. When I took the Pill, I would get tired of taking it, so I also tried out other options.
I strongly recommend condoms and a sponge for anyone who is not in a long-term relationship and only needs sporadic contraception. The sponge is a nice change after using foam with condoms, because the foam will melt inside and run down your leg all day. To my mind, this defeats one of the major benefits of condoms.
I’ve tried Depo and didn’t find it very different from taking the Pill. But going back to the doctor every few months does get to be a pain in the neck. The big problem, of course, is that if you have a problem with Depo, it’s in your system for three months no matter what. At least with the pill you can stop taking them. I wouldn’t try Depo without being on a pill with a similar dosage first, so you know how your system might react.
I am just not a diaphragm person. Some people are, and it works great for them. I’m just not one of them. My anatomy isn’t great for this option (my uterus is tipped and this makes the cervix harder to reach). And besides, you have to reach up your chooch every time you want to have sex, smear a lot of jelly around, and then go back the next morning and remove the whole thing. It kind of grosses me out. As I mentioned above, I’m not a big enthusiast of things dripping down my … oh never mind.
So about two years ago I got an IUD. I am married and monogamous, which made the IUD a good choice for me. I haven’t had kids yet, but I will as soon as I finish my @^$$@&* dissertation, so I wasn’t an ideal candidate. They prefer to use it with women who have had kids already. Still, this has been the best possible choice for me, and it requires a lot less effort on a regular basis than most other options.
The IUD has made my periods worse, but then they started getting better after a while. I don’t really have PMS (according to my husband), so I just got a little crabbier when my cramps went on longer. I think crabby is fair when your insides feel like they are trying to rip themselves out. Overall, I’m very happy with my choice and can recommend it to others.
Although this is a birth control thread, I think it is important to note that condoms are used for more than just pregnancy prevention!!! Please, everyone, practice safe sex!!!