I’m happy for me too. 
Apparently the dad is balking about doing his part to chip in. He thinks the son has a perfectly fine instrument already. (I don’t know what it is, so I can’t say.) Red Hot Hottie is a bit miffed at him for that. If it were up to me, I’d help out myself, but that would be wrong on so many levels.
Tons of luck with this - I love a good guitar-driven romance!
And you have no doubt seen the Guitar Shopping thread in Cafe Society if that would be any help at all…
Way to go, tdn! I hope it works out.
I haven’t seen that thread. I need to check it out. Thanks.
Cite? :dubious:
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Heh. Once, when I got to missing her, I tried googling her name to see if anything would come up. She does have a website, but no pictures on it. In fact it’s a pretty lame site. Every page is under construction. Whoever made it for her never finished the job.
yeah, but does she have a great personality?
this all sounds promising. (will you teach me how to play guitar whilst on the swan boat? I am going to start lessons).
That is so nice! Thank you!
I’m very happy for you, tdn! I’ve been one of those rooting for you to have success in romance!
Oh my, yes. She brings so much happiness to so many people.
She has a job interview in 45 minutes. Best of luck to her!
tdn, Thanks for this thread. You (along with my friends and their kids) have inspired me.
I admit that the possibility of meeting a woman whose children have things in common with me hadn’t occurred to me; I imagined meeting a woman with children and that the children would be resentful or in completely-separate worlds. But it makes sense; if interests similar to mine are common in her household, of course there’s a greater chance we’d get along.
So now I just gotta find a woman whose family interests include solar-powered houses, or drawing, or electronic music, or…
tdn, I bless you and Red Hot Hottie, with all due respect all around.
Like you, I am in a new relationship. We have known OF each other forever, but got to know each other 10+ years ago when I did day care and had his two beautiful daughters in my care. Now we are both divorced and have met again, and he said one of the things that attracted him to me, way back when, was my devotion to family.
People, Red Hot Hottie sounds like a keeper. Best to you, tdn.
Sunspace, I’m so glad I could inspire you. The world becomes a much different place when you adopt optimism and open-mindedness as your defaults. A few weeks ago I bought a refrigerator magnet that says “Anything is possible.” It sounds like silly and stupid new age affirmation bullshit, but it’s kept my head in the right space for success. A year ago the very idea of someone like Red Hot Hottie being in my life was totally inconceivable.
Yesterday she asked her son who he wants to show up at his birthday party. The first person he mentioned was me. How heart-melting is that?
Rascal’s Mom, I wish you the very best with your new guy. He sounds fantastic, and I think he’s very lucky to have you in his life.
Looks like I’m going to be the wet blanket.
It’s possible the kid thinks he’s going to get a better Strat if you go. And Dad will have to go along or look cheap. And he understands that Mum knows this. And Dad will resent it.
You would be wise not to be a part of a competition for the child’s affections.
What this?! A successful** tdn** dating thread? Am I in bizarro Dope?
(Hint: he know I’m just kidding, and would promptly jab him in the shoulder IRL)
When I graduated from college, my sister gave me a button that said that.
Like when one of the kids came over and gave me a big hug as I was leaving my friends’ place on Sunday…
Still, what hawthorne said. I’d be extremely cautious about even appearing to get between the kid and his dad.
I’m going to make it very clear right from the start what this kid’s role is in my life. I’m not his replacement dad. I’m not there to compete with anyone. I will not badmouth anyone. I will give respect, and will tolerate nothing else towards me. I’ll be fun and a friend to him, but he already has a father. I will not be used as a tool of manipulation.
I think that that’s the best I can do.
Same goes for the daughter.
Congrats tdn. Is this the Woman you were with when I met with your fellow Bostonians Dopers?
Thanks, Jim. No, this is a different woman. I’d met her just three days previous to that night. In fact, I went home from that date and called Red Hot Hottie.
That’s good. I was a little worried about the small head leading the big, so to speak, and you getting in over your head in a he-versus-she situation.