Neither my brother nor I have a middle name, and it has never been an issue - except giving me more time to complete tests. My father just had an initial, and never knew what it stood for.
Since it is so common for women getting married to change middle names, I wouldn’t think dropping it would be a problem.
Minor sidejack: “middle Christian name”? This terminology seems very unusual to me. Was this a name granted at a Christian ceremony, or is it just another term for “middle name”?
We just say “first name”, “middle name”, and “last name”, although I suppose for greatest clarity it should be “first personal name”, “middle personal name”, and “family name”…
My mother’s middle name is a single letter. She’s gotten an awful lot of grief over the years. Banks, credit cards, hospitals, anyone who thinks they are official insists that she give her full middle name complete with condescending “it can’t be that bad dear” speech.
Now may be the time to honor someone with your name you find worthy of honoring - since you’ve been stuck “honoring” your mother for all this time. You may not use it often (i.e. on legal documents only) but it could help differentiate you from all the other purplehorseshoes out there and be “empowering in that sort of self identification way.” (Quotes cause that’s such a stupid phrase, but the idea is in there.)
Without a middle name how are people supposed to scold you with any emphasis? First and last just don’t have that shaming factor as when complete identification goes along with the rant.
My middle name is the common Ann. Not out of lack of imagination but because I was named after a Gold Medal-winning Olympic skater with that middle name. I passed it on to my daughter and after thirty-eight years she hasn’t yet discarded it. So apparently I still count for something in her life. Whew.
I think a single middle initial is kinda neat but my inclination, if I were changing my name, would be to add a middle name just for easier identification.
Some of us go by middle names and have since birth. I do and it is a tradition in both my family and my hometown in general. First names are honorary to someone else and mean little. Don’t be dissin’ on no middle names. They are just as good as the rest of them.
A friend of college goes by his middle name - because his father screwed up and switched the desired first and middle names on the birth certificate. They both are very common, ordinary ones, so it wasn’t a case of using a middle name to avoid a weird first name.
I have a rather common first name, no middle name, and a short not uncommon last name. Aside from the difficulty of finding userid’s on sites sufficiently primitive not to realize that email address are necessarily unique it has never caused the slightest difficulty. Once I had a conversation with a woman I had known for many years. She asked me what my middle name was. I told her I didn’t have one. She refused to believe me. She cajoled. She promised that she would never, ever, tell anyone what it was. I think she still believes I was lying.
When I registered for the draft in 1955 the registrar told me that when I was drafted they would insist on my choosing a middle name to avoid id mixups. I told her I had no intention of being drafted and, indeed, kept a student exemption till I was 26 at which point they no longer wanted me.
Neither of my parents had a middle name either. We were all born in the US. My younger brother and sister did get middle names, though.
I sometimes wish that every time I subscribed to a magazine or ordered mail-order, I should give a different middle initial. That way, I could figure out who had sold my name. Never did it though.
It would be, except that it wouldn’t be clear in most instances that the person did not have a middle name, and it was not merely being omitted.
Also, my middle name is my father’s name. It was originally going to be my first name, as I was going to be a Junior, but my dad encountered someone with a lastname that he liked, so it became my first name, and his first name was demoted.
There was also a change of tradition in my mom’s family, where the women all have the same middle name. However, when my sister almost died, Mom decided to give her the middle name of Grace, and chose a first name that contained the familial middle name.
Both of these were fueled by the fact that my parents have very common names, so they wanted less common ones for their kids. My dad actually has to use his middle initial even in this small town, as there are at least 5 others.
Neither of my parents was given a middle name at birth, although my mother uses her maiden name as a middle name now. My full legal name is Gila B Lastname, because they wanted me to have a middle initial ‘for all the forms in life.’ They’re not wrong - it’s rare that a form asks for more than that, and nobody’s ever given me grief for not having a full middle name. (I have one in Hebrew, FWIW.)
Neither of my parents nor my brother and I have a middle name. We were all born in the U.S. It hasn’t been a problem for me, except when I filled out a very long online form for Medicare supplemental insurance. On the last page you have to “sign” your name, and it will not accept a name without a middle initial. I had to re-do the entire application over the phone.
Married, my maiden is my middle name. Without my maiden name attached who am I? I did find it odd my inlaws had an opinion about me keeping my maiden middle name, they were against it. Actually until I met them and my sil’s, I had never heard of any married woman completely dropping her maiden name in favor of some generic middle name they were given at birth.