But call me first. He’s number 1, 3, and 5 on mine. I may have some thinking to do!
In a marital relationship your body is not your own, but your spouses (1 Cor 7:4). So it is not your decision what to do with your body but theirs, lest you dishonor their body. We are to honor our spouses body by respecting what we do with it. Doing something that your spouse finds objectionable with your body is equivalent of you forcing them to commit that act.
My 100% faithful ex-girlfriend wanted to boink Vin Diesel. I told her that was fine if she ever got the chance, on that condition that I could likewise boink Elizabeth Hurley.
We have two lists. A celebrity list and a people-she-knows-she-would-like-to-talk-into-a-threeway-list.
One of my ex-girlfriends used to follow a baseball player named Ken Griffey, and every year she would go to wherever his team was having spring training camp with every intention of fucking him given the chance. She wasn’t close to kidding, and she told me I had to accept that before we started dating. If she did not ever fuck him it was not for lack of effort on her part.
kanicbird, I am going to say this as politely as I can, not merely because we’re not in the Pit but because I think you’re a genuinely nice person despite our philosophical differences.
Stay out of threads like this. You have nothing to contribute that anyone wants to hear, and you are only annoying people by spouting stuff like this. This is nothing but threadshitting. You are free to believe anything you wish to believe, but please accept that most people on this board are of different minds and are of entirely different opinions. I cannot believe that your intent in posting the above was anything other than being annoying, and that is not a Christian way to behave.
My husband and I each have a list.
I consider his list completely hypothetical and absolute fantasy.
My list is fair game for when Hugh Jackman, George Clooney, Brad Pitt and Mark Wahlberg want to meet me.
Here’s a funny thing.
I can imagine possibly being in some sort of open relationship in my life. Discussed ahead of time and all that.
However, I could not be in a relationship in which my spouse was going to have sex with another man (or woman) only if that person was more attractive/wealthy/famous than me.
The sort of “we’re monogamous, but if this person shows up all bets are off” mentality is frankly upsetting.
My wife has a list and I probably wouldn’t be that upset if she managed to sleep with one (or more) of the fellows on her list. Richard Gere just isn’t that threatening to me.
I, on the other hand, have a database that is continuously being updated. 
If you keep it stored at www . peachyforum . com, I think I may have stumbled upon it the other day.
And, may I say, excellent work.
This pretty much captures how I feel about this.
It seems like this whole idea of “the list” can mean a lot of different things to different people.
I guess I lean very strongly towards the “we talked about it but both considered it a complete joke and there is no way we would ever act on it” kind of way.
To me this notion of the list is really more about communicating your fantasies than it is about actually making an honest to goodness exception to your monogamy.
On the other hand, if what your Spouse/SO is saying is, “you’ll do for now, but there is someone else–not just a fantasy but an actual living breathing human being–who I am so much more into than you, that if he/she showed up and even wanted to have just a one night stand, I would do it even if it meant the end of our relationship.” Well, that’s kind of a different thing. I guess my reaction to all this may be due in part to the fact that I live in LA and so the idea that a woman I was dating would meet a celebrity at a bar is not some 1 in a billion thing.
Also, for some reason this whole discussion brings up two memories of kind of crappy situations. The first was several years back. I was dating someone but it seemed like she was not all that into me sexually. Meanwhile, she would tell me how sexually attracted she was to various rock stars. I remember Peter Gabriel came on the radio and she said “oh wow, he is on my any time, any where, list.” I remember responding “I’m glad SOMEBODY is”. In case you were wondering, the relationship did not last much longer.
The other situation is more recent. I was dating someone briefly, and she also didn’t seem all that into me physically. But on a few occasions she told me about how she had flirted with various celebrities, like two celebrity brothers on two different occasions. I tried to pass it off with a joke like “oh that’s nothing, I flirted with both of them plenty of times. In fact I think they got jealous and almost got into a fight over me.” But I have to admit I was annoyed. I guess what both those situations have in common is that I was pretty into someone, but did not feel that she returned the feelings, and meanwhile she was telling me about how strongly she felt for some other guy, albeit a distant and unattainable (?) celebrity. I think it’s one thing to joke about it if you are both clearly into each other. I think it’s kind of not so great to joke about it if there is some doubt about that.