One of the beautiful things the SDMB has taught us all is that what we meant to say and what we actually say can be miles apart. This sort of OP and response has taught me so much about how to see and then avoid ambiguity.
I am going to guess (though I may well be wrong) that Wan Kuei really was thinking something more along the liines of “if same sex partners can be domestic partners, why can’t hetero couples?” not “if I can’t have domestic partner benefits, why do homosexuals get them? They should take them away to make things fair.” However, he expressed himself very poorly, and it certainly comes across looking as if he is more concerned with taking away DP benefits for homosexuals than in having them granted to heterosexuals. Learning how a reasonable poster can so easily unwittingly appear to be a bigot is why it is wiser to wait until one has read read much and participated in a low-key style before starting a thread, and certainly before starting a pit rant. Message boards are a unique form of comunication, and there are certain skills you have to have–without them what you say does not come close to what you mean and people draw all sorts of odd conclusions about you. Remember, it is your job to make yoursel understood, not other people’s jobs to guess correctly what you “really” meant.
As an aside: “Assmasterson” was obviously a huge, catastophic insult. But do you all really object to Mr. Gayman? That seems like a name I might use myself if I were constructing a senario where the sexual orientation of the people involved was relevant.