I was homeschooled for 5th, 7th, and 8th grades. My father is college-educated with multiple degrees, my mom graduated from high school (she had a college scholarship, she just didn’t want to go).
First, a little background. I went to public schools for grades K-4. In first grade, I was shunted into a “gifted” program mostly because the teacher was impatient with my questions and wanted to get me out of her hair. I went to the “gifted” class one day a week. It probably kept me from going bonkers. I was very scientifically-inclined, had a high-school reading level, and was a favorite target of both students and teachers. There were some good teachers at my school, but I always seemed to end up in the class of the old biddies who hated the “gifted” program because their own kids couldn’t get into it, so they took it out on me.
Fourth grade was the last straw. I was getting verbally abused and unfairly treated by that teacher. We were short on books, so she would give a homework assignment to the class, give me two minutes to copy the questions down, then give the book to another student and make me go home and do them from memory. Any time I made a less-than-perfect grade, she would tell the class, “Don’t feel so bad, SHE made a ____” and sit there and smirk while they laughed at me. My parents complained repeatedly because I was coming home in tears, but the school officials absolutely refused to get involved.
Homeschooling was a last resort. I was supposed to be in what was the best elementary school in the area, but I wasn’t learning anything and was suffering. My parents did a lot of research into it and joined a local support group. We kind of winged it. I was able to help pick out my textbooks, which we either ordered or were able to obtain free from the public schoolbook depository (sometimes we found brand new textbooks that were apparently never used before the school system switched editions). I also chose several workbooks on different subjects that I was interested in.
In Florida (where we lived at the time), the only requirement was that a certified teacher had to review your curriculum once a year. One of the teachers I had for the gifted classes was happy to see me out of the school and did our reviews.
Mom kept a detailed lesson plan, with each day and my assignments. I would get up, check the plans, and do my assignments. Sometimes it took a couple hours, sometimes it took several. If I finished early, sometimes I’d do some extra work. Usually I would do a section from each book, so my workload was typically 30-60 math problems (one or two lessons in Saxon Math texts), sections in history and science and the questions following them, a reading selection and questions, etc. Mom would grade the papers in the afternoon and then I would make necessary corrections if I made mistakes. That way I really learned the material that I didn’t understand the first time around.
The system worked well for us. I was happy and learning. Socialization wasn’t a big issue to me, I wasn’t a really social kid. I hung around with other kids at the support group meetings, but I’d rather be at home with my computer. I was also a Girl Scout during that time.
In sixth grade, I was eligible to go to a science magnet school. Thinking it was a great opportunity, I went. Bad choice. The school only cared about students who were science-fair obsessed. I fell by the wayside once again. On top of that, a group of boys, lead by a school official’s son, decided I was prime harassment material. So did a girl from my scout troop. Between them, I went through three backpacks and too many lunchboxes to count. They’d grab them and beat them against a wall or rip them from my hands. I’d fight back, but I was a scrawy kid. It happened right in front of an administrator, but she would just stand and watch. Again, my parents went to the principal, but he said he couldn’t do a thing. It continued on and on… eventually the official’s kid had to say “I’m sorry” to me, but that was it. I’ve still got scars on my hand from a rock one of them lobbed at me.
Back to homeschooling. I started pre-algebra in the magnet school, so Mom just continued with Saxon Algebra I and II for 7th and 8th grades. We kept to our old system and my younger sister joined up in first grade. She is now in 8th grade and will probably enter a public high school next year (hasn’t been decided yet).
Upon moving to Mississippi, I chose to enroll in a public high school. They had only dealt with a couple of homeschoolers before. The counselors looked at my mom’s records and decided that I had done equivalent work to most of the freshman classes. They were a bit shocked I had taken Algebra I and II at that age, those classes aren’t taught here until high school. I ended up with credit for 6 or 7 classes, enough that I was able to graduate in three years. I found that many of the classes I did have to take overlapped with the things I studied on my own. Frankly, I was bored to death in high school. I graduated valedictorian, 4.0, full college scholarship.
Some people think my parents must be nuts for homeschooling me and my sister. Others argue that they taught me to run away. I don’t think either is true. My parents provided me with a better education than I was getting in public schools. There comes a time when dealing with constant abuse for a subpar education just isn’t worth it anymore. I’m grateful they had the time and money to do it, and I think I’m better for it. I’m now in my third year of college and studying on my own at a young age has helped me immensely while many of my peers have trouble dealing when information isn’t spoonfed to them.
The other big argument is socialization. I never had a problem with it. I had the support group and the scouts. That was more than enough for me. At school, the only kind of socialization I was getting was the kind that involves insults and punches. Most homeschoolers go out of their way to ensure that their children spend time around other kids.
That was probably WAY more than you wanted to know, but I hope it helped some. Feel free to ask me anything else if you want.