Last year, a group of models have been racked over the coals and had to issue an apology for, while dressing up on backstage during some event, singing along a popular song that included the world “nigger”, so it’s not because it’s in a rap song that you’re supposed to say it. You’re apparently supposed to stop singing when you should have said this word.
This attitude of thinking that a word is so bad that pronouncing it, even in a context where it should be, for instance academic, is unacceptable, and replacing it by an euphemism (“the N word” ) in these contexts, required, is plainly a Victorian attitude. The fact that many people even think that similarly sounding word should be avoided (the niggardly instance : many people think it shouldn’t be used due to the risk of confusion even though they know perfectly that it’s not a racial slur. It just sounds a bit like one so…I don’t know…a sensitive soul might misheard it, faint, and you will have to bring the salts?) only underline this prudishness extraordinaire.
American are notorious for this kind of prudishness when it comes to “bad words”, whose utterance is likely to traumatize children for life and make a kitten die and for thinking that somehow if your hear “beeep” or “N word” instead, even though you know perfectly well what word was meant, it changes absolutely everything and it’s not hurtful or offensive at all anymore, but still.
If “nigger”, in an appropriate context, is so hurtful, offensive and damaging that it should be avoided, the “N-word” is equally hurtful, offensive and damaging and should be avoided too. Whether one is used or the other, the context is the same, the intent is the same, the meaning is the same, both the speaker and the listener know what word is being used. The only difference is the sound you hear. And there’s no possibility that a sound can be damaging in itself. So, the fact that one cannot be used but the other can be used freely even though they are exactly equivalent and carry exactly the same meaning and information demonstrates that the use of the word in context isn’t intrinsically as horribly offensive as stated. If it were, “N word” would be too. It shows that, rather, it’s an arbitrary taboo, like, for some people, pronouncing or writing the word “God” which is similarly replaced by “G*d”.