I’m not going to disagree with this at all. However, in the thread that started this particular thread, where the fuck is the flirting everyone is pissed off about? You could name about 10 other threads that have degenerated into silly flirt-fests, but this one? I re-read it again just to make sure, and I still don’t know what the fuck people are talking about. Does the subject sound suspicious? Yes, it does - oh, and Davebear posted to it. It must be a flirt-fest. But there isn’t anything in that thread that I can construe as flirting, especially compared to some of the other threads around here. If you’re going to bitch about it, at least choose one that gives you more ammo. Then we can start having fun.
Davebear
I dislike flirting and cybersex threads intensely. I’m perfectly happy to delete them. I think I read one or two of the threads begun by you but now I know you’ve got nothing to say which I want to read.
Yes, I am a prude ;). I’m totally fine with people flirting and carrying on in threads which are clearly labelled but dontcha think you’re overdoing it in MPSIMS? It’s not all about you and your coterie of little cybermates and other people would like to carry on conversations without you lot wandering in there and making sure you think you all are hot and everso sexy.
It’s the quantity of rutting threads which gets me. Why don’t you all take it to a chatroom or is voyeurism what you enjoy? The thrill of knowing people are reading?
I don’t have a problem with flirt threads. Just as long as the flirting stays in the flirt threads.
I’m certainly no prude, but what really annoys me is when a perfectly interesting thread is hijacked by the flirt brigade and you have to wade through their inane spoutings to get to the interesting content.
So people are flirting and want to get laid? Where, where, where!!
Pick me! Pick me!
FranticMad, just join any thread where Davebear, Branwen and whatever RhinosHoney is now calling herself.
Mention whichever sex act you feel you are most proficient at (lie if you feel the need) feel up some virtual boobies and just generally let fly with your libido.
You’ll fit right in I’m sure ;).
Jesus get over yourselves already !!! Flirting is a bit of fun… its not life or death ya know…
And since when is this thread all about Davebear cos it seems to suddenly have turned on him. There is stuff going on in people real lives that makes it sometimes nice to come in here and have a laugh.
If you want more serious, topical or whatever threads… then START THEM. Nobody is putting a gun to your head to read… I don’t read all the threads because I know some things I’m not interested in. I don’t go bitching and whining about it.
Since when did having some fun become such a crime???
(warning in very pissed off mood anyways so this struck a nerve even more with me).
Shouldn’t this be in IMHO?
Having some fun got to be a crime when it impinged on other people’s right to have fun I think. If person A and person B come to the SDMB to have a cheerful little exchange about something utterly unrelated to sex and person C and person D wander into the thread and begin cybermasturbating all over the place, there’s a problem.
Basically it comes down to courtesy (yeah I know it’s hard when the rutting hormones are overtaking any consideration for anyone else’s use of the SDMB, but try and stay with me here) starting a thread entitled Watch Me and My Mates Exchange Funny Sex Stuff To No-One But Us is OK but waddling into a thread entitled Funny Duck Calls I have Heard and sexing it up isn’t OK.
I liked Diane’s term:
“I need to get fucked badly and can’t so I’ll do the next best thing and jizz all over myself with the help of the SDMB”
On the one hand, I can sympathize with Jarbaby. I don’t know how many times I’ve clicked on a thread title that sounded interesting, only to find yet another incredibly dull and pointless sports thread. There was one a little while back called, “The Quest for the Grail has Begun!” which turned out to be about hockey. Now, as boring, pointless, and embarassingly juvenile as flirt threads may be, they don’t hold a candle to hockey. So, I wasn’t happy about being “tricked” into reading the thread by the misleading thread title.
On the other hand, I somehow was able to resist bitching at the people in the thread for enjoying a pastime that leaves me cold. See, it turns out that the SDMB isn’t actually here just to amuse me, and there’ll probably be a lot of stuff about things I don’t like. And while complaining about it might endear me to the few other Dopers who are as sports-phobic as I am, for the most part I’ll just end up looking like a dick. So when I open a thread that turns out to be about sports, I just shrug and hit the back button, and let those poor deluded sports fans have their poor deluded sports fun.
Well, I’m all pissed off because in order to find out what the rant was about I had to click a link to a thread I had seen and decided not to read in the first place.
Then I find out that I should’nt have bothered to open this thread either.
You know how it says on the front page, “Your gateway to some of the smartest people on the net, plus a few dipsticks?”
Evidently, I’m one of the dipsticks.
For the record:
I don’t wear a chastity belt…they make my hips look big.
I DO want to have sex with Coldfire, and I enjoy talking and writing about sex immensely.
I have noticed and calmly and without invective mentioned that there are an abnormal amount of threads which are all similar in topic:
i.e. I LIKE TO FUCK DO YOU?
WHO LIKES JIZZ?
DO MEN LIKE PUSSY?
SPIT OR SWALLOW
HAVE YOU FISTED YOUR CAT?
Do a search, we’ve done it ALL, and I mean ALL before, and I was just noticing that this is a high time in the cycle, and I’m anxious for it to be over with, since it seems to be coinciding with a kind of boring…content free message board as of late.
and like I said twice in that thread (so you don’t think I’m policing)
CARRY ON…just wanted to mention ( and I know I’m not the only one) that it’s becoming tiresome.
I can only assume the boards would actively burst into flame if kaykay and davebear were existing here together. 
First off, now that I know enough to avoid the MPSIMS threads in questions. I wouldn’t dream of starting a thread complaining about the flirt threads, nor would I interject into one of those love-fests. I try my best to avoid them. I stop reading MPSIMS threads when I see them devolve into a series of flirty one-liners.
But since you asked, frankly, I find flirt threads to be icky. They are embarassing to read in the same way that I’d be embarassed to watch people make clumsy, dorky attempts at flirting in person. I’m no prude by any stretch of the imagination, but the sight of a few people making passes at virtual strangers on a public message board strikes me as somewhat desperate. And when the SAME people crop up in different threads doing the same thing, it becomes creepy.
Perhaps you could take it to IM, or email. Or go outside and flirt in person.
**That’s because “flirting” in the Pit is usually a sarcastic take on all the flirting in MPSIMS.
Oh, and to repeat the point: I’d never bother making a specific complaint about flirt threads; I can avoid them or stop reading. But you asked why people don’t like them.
But jar, tell me did your cat like the fisting?
My general rule of thumb has been that if goes past an exchange of more than about two jokey flirts in a MPSIMS or IMHO thread, it’s time to take it to email or IM. I wish more people would follow this rule. This is especially true if the content of the post is nothing but a flirt - if there’s actual content with a joke-flirt added at the end, then it doesn’t count. Also, if it’s a joke that no one but the object of the flirt would get, please, for the love of Og, take it to email after a post or two. Dopefest threads excepted in this rule, along with popularity context/flirt-with-me threads, because that’s 90% of what those threads are, and everyone knows it.
And jar doesn’t have a cat. But I bet her puppers likes being tied up and fisted.
Thanks, lel, Miller, and the other reasonable posters. I understand, now. Some of the objectors are self-defined prudes, some are just jaded, and a lot of them, which may include some from the previous two categories, have gotten thoroughly and totally whooshed. I can’t help the first two, but here’s a clue for the terminally whooshed; we aren’t really interested in getting into each other’s pants. It’s a running joke. And, no, no one really cares whether you find it amusing, or not. Join in, if you want; the more, the merrier. Ignore us, if you want; we don’t care.
jarbabyj, thanks for the list. I missed some of those. But, you make a good point, when you say “since it seems to be coinciding with a kind of boring…content free message board as of late.” I couldn’t agree more. That’s why I spend most of my time “flirting” with my friends.
Yes, I do have a group of friends on this board. And, yes, we do spend a lot of time “flirting” with each other. We even have a tendency to hijack the hell out of threads. But, if you notice, it’s primarily our own threads. And, the next time an OP asks me to stop flirting in, or hijacking, their thread, that will be the first time. And, I’ll stop. I’d probably even stop for a non-OP poster who was participating in the thread, if they asked politely. But, bitching by people who aren’t even participating in the thread doesn’t mean squat.
As for the perception that I only post in sex-related threads, well, I guess you folks need to read something other than the sex-related threads. I’ve posted in 585 threads, since the end of December. I’m pretty sure some of them had nothing to do with sex. If you missed those posts, oh, well.
Wow. I just got laid by 3 SDMBers. This flirting thing really works. Give me 5 minutes to rest.
So, who’s next?
Bwahahaha!
It’s a joke is it, Davebear? We all got whooshed? Yeah by a tidal wave of jism emanating from your general direction.
You may wish to consider however, that it’s not coming across as a joke but rather as a desperate plea for attention. If you want to be known as Sad Davebear so desperate for sex he needs to cybersex on a messageboard then you’re doing fine, just fine.
I don’t buy this, if only because there is no one on the planet more desperate for sex than me, but I still don’t do flirt threads. Could be that some people are just amused by things that you aren’t amused by. Doesn’t make them worse people, or more pathetic.
I can understand not liking cyber flirting. I just don’t understand not liking it to the extent that you don’t like it. I think it’s making you come across as far more pathetic than Davebear. Or at least meanspririted, but in my book it’s more or less the same thing.
That last post came across much harsher than I meant it to. I don’t think you’re pathetic or meanspirited, Primaflora, but I think you’re being a lot harder on Davebear than is called for. For God’s sake, if he really is a pathetic as you paint him to be, is it really necessary to rub his nose in it? That’s like mocking the handicapped, or something.