This political season makes it sound like millions upon millions of men are just chomping at the bit to take rights away from women, so they can “own” them, which is basically what the extreme end of the whole “tradwife” thing seems to advocate. Maybe I’m living in the wrong wheelhouse for this, but I’m not seeing it. I mean, why would anyone, male or female, WANT to live in an unhappy marriage with someone who can’t leave them?
On the other end of the spectrum, it doesn’t seem to occur to some women that maybe a woman IS OK with being totally supported by her husband, and having everything in his name. At least they have rights should things go sideways, I guess.
What do Dopers think? I’m guessing, based on what I see here, that most of them wouldn’t advocate this sort of thing.
You know I’m now a care taker. I’ve been one in some form for most of my adult life. I sometimes think that I wish someone would take care of me. However, that’s just grumblethinking. I do not want anyone telling me what to do, what to think, how to dress, etc.etc. I suppose what other women want to do is up to them. I think they might be surprised at how much better it feels to not have someone policing them 24/7. If they are being abused, I hope they can escape or someone can help them.
Personally, I think the sort of man who wants this sort of, “relationship” is suspect.
I’m a traditional wife. Never worked.
Did the house stuff/ kid stuff.
But I did not give up my identity or family for it.
The social media thing about it is fake.
Those women are not nearly that perfect. No one can be.
Shit happens. The plan breaks down. The Christmas ham is rotten. The toilet backs up.
If a girl as young as my daughters (young women, really) said they were gonna take up this role in life, I’d laugh in her face.
The 20 somethings are too spoiled and motivated by self need to accomplish it. From what I see.
In fact I warn them all have no kids, ever. They take all you have, at times. You don’t have time for self care, much less cooking a meal for a demanding significant other.
I didn’t grow up in a really tradwife family, but my family was in a Christian cult-ish organization that had many other families that were like this. Many families of 5-10 kids apiece, often dressed in denim jumpers, dresses, culottes or the like. Some Mennonites were in the group too. Overall, the organization emphasized the typical lifestyle of 1950s families and the roles of women in the household. My sister spent time at a summer camp like thing that taught things like cake-baking, etc.
It’s unfortunately getting more common around these parts. I recently posted this, and it is visibly present around here. You can walk around Coeur d’Alene, Idaho and notice these folks.
Edit to add: I am not finding the article that details these folks specifically moving to locations to build support. There was a good one in the Spokesman Review. I’ll keep looking.
Some people probably want to be part of a married couple and feel if they can’t keep a spouse by their own merits, having a spouse who is forced to stay by the law is better than not having a spouse.
You forgot cook, child care giver, child educator, and ego booster. Also, reliable extra GOP vote. And if they get their way, extra GOP votes from each of their children.
I disagree. It’s a real thing. Look at my reference above. Christian nationalists are pushing it. It’s all around where I live. It isn’t a social media thing here.
I’ll leave out a lot of details because it could identify the family, but a man I grew up with appears to be in a religious group where this is the thing. He has a graduate degree, I should add. Anyway, they have ELEVEN children, all biological, and all of them were homeschooled. Oh, yeah, on Facebook he says they did, but we all know that she did it and he took the credit for it. They will also be parenting for the rest of their lives, because pregnancy #9 was twins, a boy and a girl, and the girl has Down syndrome. My source said that the women in this (let’s call it what it is) cult are raised from birth to never question things the men in their lives say and do, and are only sent to college so they can “find a good Christian husband.” Many of them, if they are married, also do not work outside the home even if they don’t have young children, which in itself I don’t have a problem with IF IT’S HER DECISION, and many of them also do not drive, or even (yep, you guessed it) vote, because this means they might disagree with their husbands.
Based on how I remember him, I can’t imagine him abusing a woman or a child, and perhaps this was also what she wanted. I certainly hope they are happy.