I agree with you, ThelmaLou. I hate that it’s true, but I do believe it’s true.
It’s not just Hillary Clinton. It’s Nancy Pelosi. It’s Kamala Harris. It’s Maxine Waters. It’s Elizabeth Warren. It’s Diane Feinstein. I could go on.
Every one of these women are mocked for appearance and temperament, things that are usually completely overlooked for men in the same offices. I often engaged in an exercise during the election that yielded interesting results. When discussing Hillary Clinton’s suitability for the office of President, and the responder replied that they “just didn’t like her, not that it has anything to do with her being a woman,” I would ask, “So what woman do you think would be suitable?”
In every single instance, the responder was unable to come up with a name off the top of their head. They would often get back to me within a day or two, naming one or maybe two women. But they always, always had to think about it.
I think there is a sub rosa strata of misogyny that runs through our country. A lot of it is borne of patriarchal religious upbringing that many women in this country do not shake – and men, either. They can’t quite put their finger on why they don’t think a woman is qualified – even if she’s already doing her job well – but they just “know” she’s not. They “just don’t like” her.
If Hillary Clinton wasn’t the “right” female candidate, then I don’t know who is. She is a woman who had a dream to be the first female President of the United States. What is wrong with that? It’s perfectly ok if you’re a man. She devoted her life to realizing this dream. She spent her entire career in public service, bettering the lives of others.
She married Bill, and that may have been the worst choice she ever made in her life. And then was chastised for standing by him, even by people who claimed that the sanctity of marriage is one of the most important things in the world.
Some of Hillary’s accomplishments, for those who love to say she didn’t have any: Partial List of Hillary Clinton’s Accomplishments. People may not agree with them, but they were accomplishments.
Before you say they’re no big deal, I invite you to stack them up against any man’s who ran in the Republican primary race in 2016.
She is not the best candidate. She’s lousy at campaigning. She admits this. But several studies found an interesting thing. Here’s an article that describes the results: We Love Women in Office Until they Ask for a Promotion. Then we vilify them.
Watch what happens to any woman we may advance on the Democratic side. She’ll be vilified in exactly the same way as Hillary. Any woman arising on the Republican side would be likewise vilified in the Republican primary. (Including Nikki Haley. God, what an idiot. She only looks good next to the Seriously Scary Women of the Republican Party such as Carly Fiorina, Michelle Bachmann and Sarah Palin. Susan Collins would be terrific, but she’s too smart to run.)
I don’t know how to change it. But I do know that continually pushing women for the presidency at a time when the country is not ready for it is not a good strategy to change it. You have to be at the table to facilitate change, and that won’t happen if we keep trying to make people eat their broccoli. (Hat tip to GHW Bush, who was eminently qualified for the office. As was Hillary Clinton, far more than the clown presently occupying the space.)
I think a woman might leapfrog into the presidency as a Vice. My pick for 2020: Sherrod Brown/Kamala Harris.