Oh, congratulations on your impending arrival!
My family is not big on the extended family get-together thing…the wildest we ever do is to go to my brother’s house three miles away. I haven’t had a holiday meal with my sister since she got married 25 years ago, and when I was married and lived out of state we rarely came back home for the holidays. So I’m not a good expert on these things. But I wonder…doesn’t your wife ever wish she could spend Thanksgiving with HER parents instead of yours? I’m often curious about how people handle this when one partner’s family is big on having everyone at their house every year.
Every couple of years my brother’s wife has her whole family over for Turkey day, so it’s not like I’ve no experience with it…but for example, this year I cooked at my house, and though we invited my brother and his family, we didn’t really want them to come, and they really wanted to have a Thanksgiving with just the four of them this year (which meant no Grandma, either…she ate with us, but then…she lives with us!) It was so nice to just have dinner by ourselves, in our own house, with the dishes we like…my favorite stuffing, for example, which my brother’s family doesn’t like. (We saved him a plate of it to eat when he stops by later in the week)
When I got married and moved away from home, my parents were very insistent that we consider starting our own traditions in our own home…while they loved the few opportunities we had to visit at a holiday time, they didn’t insist on us being there on that day. So we didn’t have to pick between his family or my family. So how do you decide whose family wins the holiday prize each year…did your wife have any say in all the previous years?
And the best part of celebrating at home? This year I have turkey leftovers and can have more than one turkey sandwich…and the infamous stuffing/mashed potato casserole!
(and it’s not like we didn’t SEE my brother and his family yesterday…the nieces stopped by to see Grandma in the morning!)