A million dollars over 20 years is only 50,000/year if I did the math right. Unless you have an additional job, or invest *very *carefully and live *very *frugally you can’t live forever on a million, especially if she was maintaining and paying taxes on 3 properties without renting them.
My older sister was born 8 weeks premature, at a time when that was medically very risky, but even then it was still just on 9 months after my parents’ marriage. It could’ve looked slightly dodgy so easily.
Well, he took her order, so he knew she was there. But that might have been about the extent of his awareness of her. 
It’s interesting how similar situations are treated so differently by different people; my husband’s parents were about four months pregnant with him when they got married in 1968 (they are also Catholic). As far as I can tell, they have never made any kind of effort to hide it, and even joke about it.
Thank you for that link. I don’t know why I am so facinated by the incident, I think mostly because it was so weird.
LOL! Yeah, my older brother was “4 months premature”, and he weighed ten pounds! 
1965, also Catholic. Miracles, you know, to the faithful . . .
A million dollars gone in 20 years? Pbbbt! I could spend that easily in one year! (Captain Obvious here must state in her OCD way, that’s the problem with newbies who get a windfall, they run out and buy a mansion (after living in a trailer park), they buy 20 cars, they sit back and light their cigars with hundred dollar bills. Sit back and expect to live happily ever after.) With no wise investments, no income coming in, an upgraded lifestyle cannot be maintained.
I often wonder about my mother’s side of family, in the dim past. My father’s people have been well documented since the late 1700’s when they arrived from England and Canada. My maternal grandparents were immigrants from Russia (not Russian Jews) and planted themselves a sort of low-rent dynasty here. But there is virtually zero information on any family still over there, any siblings of the grandparents, or why they came here in the first place. There have been whispers my grandmother was not Russian, but Polish, and don’t TELL anyone for cryin’ out loud, but it was rumoured my grandfather skipped town due to a murder rap. Secrets behind the Iron Curtain!
I wonder about a lot of stuff like this.
I want to know how my sister and her husband can afford so many expensive gadgets, a house in a rather pricey neighborhood, vacations and a variety of home improvements. I know they make more money than my wife and I, but not THAT much more. I also know his family has some money. Is that how they afford all this stuff or are they up to their eyeballs in debt?
I also want to know if a friend of mine from grad school is gay. His Facebook page says he’s straight and we’ve discussed women (he’s apparently very attracted to Morena Baccarin), but he just gives off this “I’m gay!” vibe with everything else he does. And he looks identical to a guy who was seriously hitting on me at work one time. Maybe that’s coloring my judgment, but I’m pretty convinced they’re the same person.
Oh, I’m also obsessed with finding out what a former friend did all day. We ran a website together (he lived on the west coast and I lived on the east coast, so we never physically met), but while I had a full time job and was contributing to the site in my spare time, he had no job and never seemed to do any work. And he didn’t have a girlfriend, so that wasn’t it. Beyond watching 16 hours of TV a day, I’m stumped for ideas.
Oh, and salinqmind, I think I’ve seen your running woman.
Most of what I want to know is not really that dramatic. I want to know if one of my English professors did LSD, seeing as how he literally wrote a book on the subject. Actually, I want to know about all the drugs my professors did. I just find that fascinating, for some reason. I think some of them might have interesting indoor gardens, as well, and I want to know! This is what happens when the profs are all of an age to be probable ex-hippies.
This is kind of my business, but I don’t really have the courage to ask: I want to know if my mom had a miscarriage(s) before she had me (I’m the oldest). She’s mentioned several times in the past about how she wanted a large family, but there’s just me and my brother. Also, she and my dad were married for 8 years before they had me (and I was a month premature). In fact, my parents had moved to the top of the list for adoption from China shortly after my mom found out she was pregnant with me. Apparently it was a very stressful decision to give up that spot and assume I would come out all right! I’m just curious about what happened before.
On a somewhat lighter note, I know that two of my friends (married to each other) are into light B&D. I’ve often wondered which of them is the dominant, or if they take turns.
I’ve often wondered about the full story of my grandfather, grandmother and step-grandmother. It is pretty well acknowledged in my family that my grandfather had men-only relationships until he married my grandmother. My grandmother also pinged the gaydar a bit according to those who knew her (and there are passing references in her diary to kissing another girl when she was in her late teens).
My step-grandmother left a woman she’d been with for 20+ years to marry my grandfather. I’ve often wondered whether my step-grandmother and grandfather had some sort of open marriage, since my step-grandmother’s ex remained a family friend.
Unfortunately, all of them have now passed away…since I am gay, I wish to heck they were still alive so I could ask them about their experiences. I really am most curious about what caused my grandfather to “switch sides” and get married!
A former GF who I’d kept touch with for 20 years died last year. We were still friends but we’d let months go without contacting each other. We last talked in Sept 2009 & I thought to call her in Feb 2010 only to find she died in Dec 2009. (Her phone was disconnected & a Google search came up with a death notice but no real Obit, so I called her brother.) She was an alcoholic & had liver problems & her brother said that she did die of liver failure. So I gave him my condolences & left it at that.
In retrospect, there’s a LOT a want to know. Was it sudden? Prolonged? Peaceful? Painful? Did she die alone or cared for? Did she know she was dying? What happened in those final months? What happened to her cats (3) & dogs (2)? What happened to her POS live-in BF/drinking buddy? But I really can’t call her brother again “Hey, sorry to drag your dead Sis out of the grave again, but I got so many questions!”
I’d dare to see beyond the mask
Which face doth paint the current task.
How best to know the game be played?
How true to Fool that I be made…
I’d love to know why a certain guy didn’t hire me for a job when he was the owner of said business. He was flirting madly with me.
I’d like to know why he’s working as a substitue teacher when I know he rakes in a lot of money off the books. I hope he’s not reporting his earning and getting a large tax return when he’s running his own business.
To be honest, I think “Why the hell didn’t I get that job?” is something that’s definitely your business and not an unreasonable question to be asking.
Years ago I had a professor, a rabbi, who told us that his dad was an immigrant, but nobody knew where he was from, because his dad would never say. He suspected his dad was from Russia but never knew for sure. I’d like to know where his dad was from and why he wouldn’t tell.
I’d also like to know why my hometown’s postmaster committed suicide. He was such a goodhearted man - it makes me so sad to think that that smiling guy behind the counter was suffering so.
I have a cousin I suspect might be gay, would be interesting to know if he was.
I’d like to know what my semi-racist great aunt’s reaction would be if she had any clue how many non-white guys her granddaughter has banged. (Note: I’m totally ok with interracial relationships - great aunt isn’t, so I think it’d be funny if she knew the truth.)
I wonder if one of my old coworkers in another state knew that her husband was gay and, apparently, sorta promiscuous. Definitely the worst kept secret in our office, so I don’t know if she really was that clueless or if she was living in denial, or they had an “understanding” or what. She really didn’t seem like the type that would agree to an open marriage, though.
I have a (half) 1st cousin that I suspect might actually be my half brother. Not a question I can ask anyone on that side of the family, though - and it’s probably just the wonder of DNA that makes us look like twins. That said considering our dads were only half brothers – it’s pretty damn creepy how much the kid looks like me. (You’d have to know these people to understand why it’s even possible … )
I know my mother was raped because she told me. I wanna know who did it (it was someone she knew). I know it’s someone who is still alive - I wouldn’t physically harm the guy (although he’d deserve it, of course) – but I’d really, really like to fuck with him somehow and give him reason to spend the rest of his days REALLY, really nervous. I also wonder if my grandmother knows what happened - she’s always been one of these “blame the victim” types when it comes to rape (with few exceptions - she almost always makes it the victim’s fault).
Wow … on preview, I’m pretty damn nosey …
He’s shifty in general. So, I kind of avoid this person when I run into him. Yes, I’ve ran into him because I sub, too.
I no longer bother to ask why I didn’t get a job. You never get a real answer. At least, I never do.
When I was in college I spent a lot of time with my roommate’s GF when he was working late, had to go out of town, “tutored” other students, etc. She was sometimes pretty unhappy with the relationship, and we’d would often be alone together.
One, I’d like to know how much of this “time away” was him cheating. We later learned that some of it was, but never found out how much and with whom. Two, more importantly, I never found out whether she was just waiting for me to make a move or just flirting. Nothing ever happened between us, though lets just say that we did some stuff that would not have been “boyfriend approved.” 
On the other hand, she never made a move either and made sure to deescalate a few situations (other ones she didn’t).
Three, I never found out why they ever broke up.
I would never hire someone I was interested in. Way too many problems could occur, even if I had no intention of acting on it. I also used to know a very sketchy executive who was the compelte opposite: He would put ads out for a new secretary when he was really looking ofr a girlfriend. Sometimes he;d hire the one he liked, but mostly he just too them to dinner after the interview. The smart ones didn’t go.