Thinking About Leaving

[Mauvaise]

@Lobsang

Not fitting in because others are ‘too smart’ is valid because I like to provide my input in GQ and other places but always knew my input would be vastly inferior to the other replies in quality of knowledge. That therefore is why I felt like I am of no real use here and should think about leaving.

Bwahahahahaha! I’m not laughing at you, but if that is your criteria for not being of any use here and feeling like you should leave - well, then I should be walking out of the door ahead of you. I could count on one hand the number of posts I’ve made in GQ and GD combined in the almost four years I’ve been on the Board; and would probably still have fingers left over.

That said, I was one of the people that posted I’m annoyed by the I’m leaving threads. If you had posted that you were taking a break and just wanted to let peole know, and they can reach you via e-mail, I wouldn’t have said a word. Because that wouldn’t have come across as a thinly veiled attempt to get people to talk you up. But, when you post I’m leaving because I’m not smart/pretty/cool/whatever enough, then it screams (to me, at least) that you’re asking people to refute that. I’ll agree to accept (this time :D) that those weren’t your motives - but can you agree that it’s not completely unreasonable for me (and others) to have gotten the impression we did?

[zephyrine]

@Lobsang

That therefore is why I felt like I am of no real use here and should think about leaving.

There are more than enough witty, knowledgeable and useful dopers around. All that is required of everyone else is that they sit in the corner looking decorative and admiring, whilst making small talk amongst themselves. And there’s nothing wrong with that (that’s my story, and I’m sticking to it).

[UncleBill]

@Lobsang

Not fitting in because others are ‘too smart’ is valid because I like to provide my input in GQ and other places but always knew my input would be vastly inferior to the other replies in quality of knowledge. That therefore is why I felt like I am of no real use here and should think about leaving.

So? Be selfish! For every input, there is an output. For every person fighting ignorance, another person is getting smarter. I have learned more shit than I care to think about on these boards. Yes, I can contribute to those subjects on which I am conversant, but rarely without a typographical error!

The military, fresh produce, boxes, paper, and a very little bit of history/U.S. Constitution are among the very few items on the very short list of subjects for which I feel capable of making a real, worthwhile contribution, and most of those are for low hanging fruit. What are your subjects?

The rest of my posts are either lame attempts at humor (in this thread) or other blather.

Dude, there IS no top half of the class without a bottom half.

[Liberal]

Lobsang, I’m sure you’re a fine person. I have no bone to pick with you. If you can’t help people by giving answers, then support the people who DO give answers — thank them, and let them know they’ve edified you. That sort of input is valuable too.

[jacksen9]

@Lobsang

Not fitting in because others are ‘too smart’ is valid because I like to provide my input in GQ and other places but always knew my input would be vastly inferior to the other replies in quality of knowledge. That therefore is why I felt like I am of no real use here and should think about leaving.

And telling people is not bizarre because as others have said people who recognise me would wonder where I am (I’ll take that persons word for it )

I just finished participating in a workshop and I am certain that I was one of the less knowledgeable people in the room. Oddly, this is exactly where I like to be. Maybe I am like a parasite. I seek the knowedge others possess. One way to begin to fill the gap is by putting yourself in situations in which you can begin to recognize places where more study is needed. Hanging around with a bunch of people smarter than yourself, is in my opinion, a good habit. As for the desire to contribute, if you are secure enough to reveal these vulnerabilities you feed the egos of those with superior intelect. These folks get to be reminded of all of their vast and superior knowledge. Some of them really need that. Some don’t. In addition, by being open and willing to expose some of your weaker areas, others that are in the same category get more comfortable and honest with themselves. This could lead to greater desire to pursue truth and knowledge. On balance, it’s all good, at least it is in my opinion. Everybody is here, (SDMB) for some reason. Some want attention, some want to show off, some want to learn, some want to lift themselves up by tearing others down. Some just want to create drama where there really isn’t any. Some seem to enjoy finding a way to be a perfect asshole without being a troll. Sometimes this is kind of cute and funny, but many times it is just a little sad. I mean every day you can wake up and be decent, nice, and hold others in high regard, or you can go around stirring up stink. I think the SDMB has many, many, good and decent folks, but unfortunately there are a few that are truly…very, very, smart…assholes.

And…don’t go. Stick around. If you enjoy participating…keep it up. I can relate to your thread regarding being smart enough to contribute. You never know when you will have a chance to make a significant contribution either here or somewhere else, as a result of what happens here. This is a good board…the best board. Why not participate in the best and with the best? If you are sincere and if you are dissatisfied with your level of knowledge and understanding, this is a great place to rub elbows with some of the greatest minds on the net.

[SolGrundy]

Awesome!

I was looking at that “livejournal” thing all the cool kids are talking about, and apparently I’ve been voted the second “whiniest little pussy bitch on the SDMB.” (Apparently the first is someone named lezlers, who I now have to find and destroy, because there can be only one.) I’m amazed that people are still talking about this.

And I’m digging the irony of being called a “pussy” by someone who goes to a separate forum and posts anonymously about stuff that’s said in this forum, which is already anonymous. Especially when they threaten violence, anonymously over the internet – Demo and Doobieous, don’t forget you’re supposed to smack me around for being such a pussy at the next DopeFest. I’ll see if I can get woodstockbirdybird away from my nose long enough to let y’all get some good punches in. Just don’t touch the hair or the face, please.

If people are going to hold on to petty grudges against me, I at least want it to be for a valid reason instead of their just not understanding what I’ve said. But since people still don’t seem to get it:

I don’t remember 99% of the user names on here from thread to thread, and I don’t have personal opinions about 99% of the people on here, one way or the other. And I never noticed an epidemic of threatening-to-leave threads. I did recognize Lobsang’s original thread being parodied. So I just noticed some poster I perceived to be kicking another poster while he was down, calling him a fuck-up. I see now it was a parody, but it seemed to me to be getting unnecessarily spiteful and nasty when people started calling each other “wetback.” I’ve seen it happen before – people coming into the pit and just being all spiteful and nasty about something posted in MPSIMS. So no, I didn’t assume that all the name-calling was harmless and in good fun.

The Mermaid: I would’ve thought that if I’ve been going on and on about how people should be nice to each other, enough to get me called a pussy, that you would’ve understood I wasn’t serious with my insult. I already explained that. I said that I had been whooshed by the thread and had listened to Mauvaise explain over and over again how all the trash talk was just trash talk. So as soon as I try to join in, suddenly that’s just the worst thing I could ever say to a person, and you’re horrified. Not fair!

The anonymous person who got all upset that I used the word “faggot:” I think I’m allowed to use it, because I am one. Relax.

And to the livejournal people: get a fucking life, already. Get a hobby or something; maybe model planes. If you don’t have the stones to put your name behind what you’re saying, why are you on the internet?

[Demo]

Sol, as long as we can agree to not touch the hair, I think we’ll get along just fine.

Also, I think it’s kind of taboo to bring LJ stuff over here, just FYI, so I won’t address that stuff.

[Mauvaise]

@SolGrundy

I said that I had been whooshed by the thread and had listened to Mauvaise explain over and over again how all the trash talk was just trash talk.

Whoa. I didn’t say anything about the insults that were flying back and forth between the people here. I did was explain (yes, it was over and over again, I’ll give you that one) (mainly to Miller) why I didn’t think this OP was mean or bully-ing. I tried very hard to remain civil and rational in my “defense” of Demo’s OP and only participated in the ‘trash talk’ once that I can recall, and that was towards the end with thinksnow - and I included a smiley so no one would think I was serious.

Please do not mistake me for for someone was talking poorly about you “behind your back”. That is not my style.

[The_Mermaid]

@SolGrundy

The Mermaid: I would’ve thought that you would’ve understood I wasn’t serious with my insult. I already explained that. I said that I had been whooshed by the thread and had listened to Mauvaise explain over and over again how all the trash talk was just trash talk. So as soon as I try to join in, suddenly that’s just the worst thing I could ever say to a person, and you’re horrified. Not fair!

Sol I was not aware that you had " been going on and on about how people should be nice to each other, enough to get (you) called a pussy", You say you explained that but you didn’t explain it to me. All I know is that I posted a response to Miller’s comment directed to me (quite fairly, I might add). The next thing I know you blindside me with gross vulgar comments usually reserved for someone who had just accused you of goat fucking or the like. No , no (just kidding) No nothing, just obcenities that I feel were disproportionate to what I said.

How was/am I supposed to know you were just kidding? How was I supposed to know you weren’t serious? What does Mauvaise have to do with that? I think you went far beyond acceptable “joining in” standards. What you said WAS about the worst thing you can say to a person and yes I was a bit horrified by it, especially from a total stranger. Not fair indeed!

As far as I know, we have never participated in the same thread before. The only thing you know about me is what is being tossed around in the anon forums at that place that is really not discussed here. 95% of that is lies sprinkled with just enough facts gleaned from locked posts in my personal journal to make it seem believeable. People get very sensitive when things they write in their private journals gets posted on a public message board. It’s nasty, sordid despicable business. Quite sad, really. That’s all I’ve got to say about that.

[Demo]

I say we all hump and make up.

[Mauvaise]

@Demo

I say we all hump and make up.

Disgusting. Can’t you think about anything but sex? You men are all alike!!

Thank the gods!!!

[imthjckaz]

I think he was talking about the men.

[The_Mermaid]

@Demo

I say we all hump and make up.

Humping in make-up sounds like a good idea until you get lipstick smeared all over your face and mascara running down your cheeks.

[SolGrundy]

@Demo

Also, I think it’s kind of taboo to bring LJ stuff over here, just FYI, so I won’t address that stuff.

Whoops, I genuinely didn’t know that was a rule. I still don’t get that, as I’d thought I was taking the high road by going to the original forum, where you have to stand behind what you write. But then again, I guess the whole nonsense started because I don’t get The Rules Of The Internet.

@The Mermaid

The next thing I know you blindside me with gross vulgar comments usually reserved for someone who had just accused you of goat fucking or the like. No ;), no (just kidding) No nothing, just obcenities that I feel were disproportionate to what I said.

Fair enough. I incorrectly assumed everybody was in on the joke, I guess, and that everybody were fair game. And if smileys were frowned on, winking smileys were an abomination. See above about The Rules of The Internet and My Not Getting Them. I guess that’s the same reaction I had when first seeing this thread – why the hell are people calling each other names and crossing the line with no indication that they’re not quite serious? And how come I’m such an ass for saying that that’s not cool?

I don’t know people by their screen names, either; in fact, I didn’t make the assumption that you were female until you said how offended you were by what I said.

Ah, well. Guess I just have to deal with being the pussy who’s ruining the Pit for everyone. I’ve been called worse.

All I’m saying is that I sure as hell better get to suck some cock at this DopeFest, though.

[laserkitty]

@Miller

What a remarkably stupid insult, especially coming from someone who has spent nearly half their posts in the “whiny little bitch” forum.

Pardon me assmunch - but my husband sometimes uses my computer and seldome remembers to sign me out when he posts…

So to that I say…bite mt. :wally

[Skywatcher]

You bumped this to respond to a post from page 4?

[Squink]

@Jeff Olsen

You bumped this to respond to a post from page 4?

Time dilation can be a real bitch some days.

[Miller]

Oh, good. This is something I needed to see again.

[laserkitty]

@Miller

Oh, good. This is something I needed to see again.

Sorry, I actually have a life…and can’t really find as much time to be obnoxious to total strangers as I’d really like. I’m glad to see that you’ve enjoyed running my name through the mud though ass hat.

[Skywatcher]

@laserkitty

Sorry, I actually have a life…and can’t really find as much time to be obnoxious to total strangers as I’d really like.

Yet you have time to dredge up a thread with a post that says little more than “bite me.” Trust me, this defense of your and your husband’s honor is doing more harm than good.