I know a couple I will call Husband and Wife.
Husband is very vocal and proud of his brief military service, which ended when he busted his knee during a training exercise in Ranger training. All told, he says, he was in the service six months. We have all been regaled with multiple long detailed stories about his service. When I mentioned that I was against this administration’s policy regarding “questioning” of detained inmates, he got very upset with me. He kept insisting I “didn’t understand” what the soldiers go through and that I should enter the military and experience it before I had a moral right to an opinion. In short, his military service is a big big deal.
Through a conversation I accidentally initiated with an old high school buddy of his I met recently, it’s come up that he may have never been in the service at all. Buddy insists that they were joined at the hip until around the time he married Wife and Husband was never gone for six months, never even gone a week without an explanation. I shrugged my shoulders and forgot about it, thinking it was possible there was just something Buddy wasn’t aware of. Besides, it makes no difference to me one way or the other if he was in the service or not. Wife was made aware of the conversation (not by me) and went to his parents to ask them. Parents looked at her like she was crazy. They also insist it never happened.
Now Wife feels as though she married someone she didn’t really know, and that wasn’t fair to her. I think this is a perfectly reasonable feeling and recommended counseling. Buddy’s girlfriend thinks Wife is being silly, that it’s nothing to get all worked up over. She thinks there is no point in potentially causing problems in their marriage over this, especially since they have a child. I think that if he needed to make up these stories, then there are already problems there. No sense in blaming Wife for them now. So now I am curious, who do you think is right?