This
I have said this to my kids.
That being said, my husband’s uncle was more imperfect than most. Some of his family (such as his only child) didn’t attend the funeral because they hadn’t been in touch with him for decades. Others (my SIL) didn’t attend because they hated his guts. But my husband was close to him. And like most people, Uncle David had both good and bad qualities.
My husband was his heir and executor and also officiated at the funeral. He opened by saying that his uncle was imperfect, but he wanted to talk about his uncle’s good qualities at the funeral. So that’s what we did. No one pretended he was a saint. Everyone there had had unpleasant interactions with him. But those of us who spoke spoke about the positive interactions we’d had with him.