I too get frustrated. I find with frustration that 2+3 often = 12. So if I can separate out the real 2 from the false 3 I imported into this interaction out of habit I’ll save myself 10 frustration points.
That’s the value to me as an end user to use the medium / message frame.
We’ve all seen the frustrated customer who’s got a problem at a retail store due to some management issue. Some spit and fume and berate the low level clerk whose job it is to be spit and fumed at. Others take a better, calmer tack. And are much more effective. You say you do that with clerks and I believe you.
Is there a way to import that approach to this environment? As you say, the issue isn’t so much tech as it is your reaction to tech. And your growing reaction today to all your accumulated reactions of the past. You’re sort of ready for a CBT-style intervention in your mental/emotional habits on this narrow topic.
Something closely related to this is the public reaction to GMO food, or even to tomatoes bred the old fashioned way for high yield and excellent shippability. As long as the only thing these innovations does is help Big Ag be more profitable, nobody is much in favor. It’s seen as “Screw you!” aimed at consumers.
If instead the same effort was spent to make more flavorful or more nutritious food folks would be much more inclined to embrace the changes as progress they can see accruing to their benefit, not somebody else’s.