Talk about a long dry spell. 
29 years and no sex. He admits to being a bad lover in bed. :eek: TMI Timmy
Tim seems like a nice guy but dang that’s just odd. I hope he has a good stock of hand lotion and magazines.
I think he must be in a good, accepting place to talk about something that might be thought of as pathetic, or at least lame. Lots of people haven’t had sex in a long time but they don’t tell it for fear of ridicule. Making love can be the greatest thing ever experienced but when the emotions aren’t there it can also be the basest. He doesn’t choose to engage in the bad again and that’s okay for him. It shouldn’t affect anybody else.
Something I admire is that he still identifies as gay. Since he’s been celibate for so long he could have played that down but doesn’t. The man is comfortable in his own skin, something some people never attain. I for one think more of him, not less. Not that you’ve said it was a bad thing or anything, that’s just how I feel.
I’ve heard before that he is asexual, although I don’t feel like looking it up. If that’s so, it explains it.
That depends on your definition of ‘asexual’. He 100% identifies as ‘gay’, he just happens to be a gay guy who doesn’t have sexual intercourse.
I can relate. I haven’t had a 29 year dry spell, but due to some circumstances it’s been a few years since I’ve made the beast with a-hard-to-determine-number-of-backs. (Still play Solitaire, just haven’t done Blackjack in more-than-a-little-while.) During the past couple of years I’ve been on a three times per year “gay today” panel and you’d be surprised how many reasonably intelligent people (at least nobody had to drive them there or point them to the room), upon learning I’m not dating anybody or, more to the point, not currently having sex with anybody, aka am essentially celibate myself, have actually asked me “So how do you know you’re gay?” or “How do you know you’re still gay?” or “So aren’t you really asexual?”
I’ve tried using it as a teaching moment that “Being gay is not 100% about having sex, you’re still gay or straight even if you haven’t had sex for 29 years” (like Tim Gunn I mean, I haven’t had quite that long a dry spell).
Though Tim has inspired me to officially become celibate. I have several years I can use as “credit for time served”, it will be less embarrassing to say “No, not getting laid, BUT, it’s intentional, I’ve made a pledge”, and with any luck I’ll fail.
I’m straight but maybe I should try something like this. I could start telling women I’ve decided to be celibate and see if any of them take it up as a challenge.
Well, I heard that he *self-*identified as asexual. I read it on a board or blog or something for/about asexuality. It was in a list of “Famous Asexuals”. I googled it, and didn’t see it anywhere though, so it may have just been hopefulness on the part of [someone in] the asexual community.
But, I was under the impression that people identified as gay or straight AND asexual, because being asexual doesn’t mean you are (necessarily) uninterested in having a relationship with someone, just that sex won’t be involved in said relationship. So, a person would like an intimate, committed relationship with someone of the same sex, but has no interest in fucking would be a gay asexual. I’m not sure about that though, but it was the impression I’ve gleaned online.
29 years, is that all?
Amateur.
You don’t need a partner. Not with that robot arm.