has yet to happen.
What conclusions or assumptions would you make if someone never suffered a broken heart their entire lives? No other info given (married, asexual, etc.).
I was 15 and I found out she had a crush on me. I saw her and thought she was beautiful. I spent the the next few days daydreaming about her in a state of total bliss. Then I found out she was having second thoughts about me and I was crushed. That feeling was awful and it followed me around for about the next two weeks and I shook it off. We did end up dating later but my feelings for her were never as intense.
I was older, in my 20s and met her in a physics class. I was her first kiss, in the library studying chemistry together, as well as making some, I guess.
She was Mormon and I was on the way out. Her parents were divorced; her father had run off with her mother’s best friend, and the father had quit Mormonism, so I got lumped in with him.
We both really loved each other but she was listening to her mother.
Mormons marry early. She was 19, and after we broke up, she met some guy and was married within a few months. The guy and I shared a group office in the physics building, which was a bit awkward for a while.
It felt like I had been hit by a Mack truck.
Unfortunately, I’ve also been on the other side of breaking up with someone who loved me more than I loved her. Felt like a jerk.
A girl I went through high school with in the late '70s. She was a year ahead of me and we met in band. We were together all the time, it seemed like, either by ourselves or with friends. It felt like we were a couple, anyway. She was petite and pretty and seriously smart but was down on herself constantly. I wanted to take it to the next level, make our relationship “official” I guess, and found out from her friend that she was sleeping with an older guy she worked with. Like spending nights at his place. This is when she was 17-18 years old. Turns out her home life was pretty much an abusive disaster and she was bipolar and our high school partying turned into alcoholism over the years. She was in and out of rehab and detox and we stayed in touch here and there until a little after I met my to-be wife. That was my first big heartbreak. My couple of heartbreaks after that were bad but not as deeply scarring.
- Very lucky
or
- Psychopathic or “cold”
or
- Just hasn’t happened yet
“Inexperienced.”
4th grade. Girlfriend at homeroom, dumped 6th period. Never pursued a new one.
Most of these stories sound like childhood/teenage angst; part of the growing up process that prepares for real, adult relationships.
Sure. That’s exactly what they are. It’s great to hear stories of people marrying their high school sweetheart and living happily ever after, but the vast majority have our hearts ripped out at least once and learn and grow from the experience.
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:dubious: Men just need to figure out that women aren’t really into those kinds of pictures.
I guess I just have a different interpretation of “broken heart”. Sure, I’ve felt the angst and depression of being dumped. But I do not feel that is a “broken heart”. I feel like a broken heart is something that only happens when real, adult love is broken. As an adult, I look back at the girl(s) I felt broke my heart as a youngster and get such an incomplete, immature notion of broken heart. I did not truly love any of those girls. I have only truly been in love twice in my life. And I broke her heart, the first woman. Now the girlfriend I have now I have such a deep, complicated and unconditional bond with, if she broke up with me I believe I would suffer a broken heart. But I’ve never experienced one yet. And it’s not due to a lack of relationships.
ETA: and I feel kinda sorry for high school sweethearts marrying right after school.
It happens. Looking back at high school I’d say about 3/4 of the boys never dated. Plus some people are just so absorbed into their careers or whatever that they never really “date”. I also have known men who had absolutely no interest in women beyond friends until the met that one woman whom they later married.
You’ve known men who’ve been too into their careers to date, you’ve also known men who never have had interest in women until they met the woman they later married. You also said “it happens”.
These responses of yours have not answered the OP. My question is what assumptions wfould you make if you found out someone has never suffered a broken heart (without any additional info about this person such as career involvement, personal history, anything).
BTW, how did you know such personal details about a large percentage of your fellow students in high school? I have no freaking idea what percentage of the total in my HS ever dated.