What a moron! If anyone has seen ANY of the Blade movies, they are a bit on the violent side don’t you think?
So this **Father of the Year ** takes his son to the movie, first the boy TALKS during it, the father is eating popcorn and drinking coke, belching and talking with his mouth full. I can only shudder at what kind of raising this kid is getting.
Um. Except for them talking during the film, I don’t see the issue here. Why does it matter to you that they saw Blade III?
And so far as the food goes, sure, talking with your mouth full isn’t proper manners but unless he was spitting popcorn all over the place because his mouth was stuffed and then followed each drink of coke with an obviously loud belch, I don’t see why that even merits mention.
I’d say something, but my mom took me to see Aliens for my 9th birthday. I liked it so much I made my dad take me again a week or so later. But then again, I was a respectful little one who was quiet and just enjoyed the movie.
The movie choice doesn’t seem that bad to me. The talking would be annoying though.
Maybe because Blade 3 is an inapropriate movie to be taking an 8 year old to?
Maybe because that rude behavior annoyed him and didn’t allow him to enjoy the movie?
I saw the first Alien movie when it came out in theaters. I must have been about 5 or 6. For a long time afterwards I was afraid of sitting in chairs for fear that tentacles would come out and wrap around my legs and I would be trapped by an alien.
I saw Blade 3. I didn’t think it was all that violent. It’s so cartoonish and stylized that it’s not really scary. The vampires all just burst into flames. It was no big deal.I was bothered by the couple who brought their three year old to Saw, though.
Or maybe he should worry about his own kids if he has any instead of worrying about raising a stranger’s. Unless the child is being traumatized, it’s none of his business how the parent raises him or her.
And if talking with your mouth full (instead of just talking) and burping, which is a natural bodily function that can be done in polite company, are so annoying that it’s going to make him not enjoy the movie, he should just stay home and wait for the DVD.
Where did he say that he did anything about the way he felt? He saw something that he saw as inapropriate, and commented on it here. Is he not allowed to have an opinion? (I hope that eenerms is a guy and I’m not mistakingly using the wrong pronoun)
Or, people should be considerate, whisper to each other, or at least talk quietly, and yes, as a matter of fact, unless it sneaks up on you unexpectedly, you can burp somewhat quietly if you hold it in and do it slowly, instead of letting out a big belch.
That he thinks he knows enough about the kid and his father to automatically know the movie is inappropiate for him is arrogant and condescending as some eight year olds are emotionally mature enough to handle pretty heavy movies and if Blade III is anything like Blade, I’d never consider its trilogy to be scarring. It’s pretty obviously a comic book movie, even moreso than X-Men, Spiderman, Daredevil, et al.
Also, notice that I said in my original reply to him that unless he was spitting food all over the place or belching obviously loud, i.e. acting rudely to the point of disruption, that I didn’t see any reason to mention it. Nor did I say that talking was okay… I even said it wasn’t in my very first sentence in this thread.
Yeah. Because other people in society do not affect us. We all live in our own private bubbles with only our immediate families. :rolleyes:
Fact is, if the parent is doing a crappy job of raising his kid, that messed up kid is going to be interacting with other people throughout society in a messed up way.
And the OP did not turn around in the theater and berate the man. That would have been innappropriate. Venting in the Pit? Perfectly appropriate. Sensitive to this issue Aesiron? Questioning your own choices?
Projecting much? I don’t have kids and never intend to. Nor do I deign to believe I know what’s best for someone else’s children, whether they be the man’s the person in the OP is ranting about or your’s.
I’m sure this kid’s going to be the next Jeffrey Dahmer because his dad took him to see a “scary” vampire movie when he was eight.
You are unintentionally lying when you state this. Do you not believe: that teaching a child to gut policemen when he is three is a bad way to raise a child, that teaching a child to cut off his own fingers is a bad way to raise a child, that teaching a child to sexually abuse their siblings is a bad way to raise a child? It’s just that your absolute bad things list that everyone obviously should follow is smaller than the OP’s.
I kind of side with the OP on the movie thing as I have recently seen small children taken to movies beyond their years and been completely terrorized by them. (The kids by the movie. Not me terrorized by the kids.)
You forgot the roll eyes smiley. Come on! I gave you a pefect spot for it! And no, I do not think that experience alone will make him a psycho killer. But he might spit in my Big Mac at Burger King some day.
Give some emprical, not theoretical, evidence that an 8 year old seeing a vampire movie is a threat to your freedom. Otherwise, shut the fuck up.
For a dad to trust the character of his kid enough to take him to a cheap ass vampire flick is not a demonstration of his doing a crappy job.
On the other hand, if he treats his kids like fragile eggshells, doesnt show them any respect for their abilities or intelligence whatsoever, then he is indeed being a crappy parent.
Ah the old What You do Has an Effect On Others So Others Have a Right to Interfere in What Yo Do. What a load of horseshit.
Yes, if a butterfly flaps its wings yadda yadda yadda the Japanese might be in for a hell of a typhoon.
That means the Japanese need to be prepared for typhoons; it doesnt mean its Ok to put the butterfly in a jar.
Not informing someone about something they are doing that bothers you while running and whining to those whom you are less likely to get into conflict with? Not ‘appropriate’; chickenshit. Or did the OP think it would inappropriate for the guys kid to see the OP get his ass kicked in public?
In general, it’s not considered a good thing to take an 8 year old to a movie with lots of blood, guts, violence and strong language.
Even if the 8 year old is more mature for his age, he’s still a kid. And just because someone is a parent it doesn’t necessarily mean that they know what’s best for their kid.
Yes, you did say that. However, as mentioned by the OP, he apparently was talking and burping loud enough to be distracting or else the OP wouldn’t have mentioned it.
If it’s unintentional, it isn’t a lie.
And yes, if there was a fingerless child that molested his siblings, killed cops, and tore tags off mattresses (with his teeth, I assume), I would *then *think I have a better idea how to raise him but your examples have as much in common with what happened in the OP as statutory rape has to rape forced at knifepoint.
At eight, the kid is either in second or third grade and I remember watching actual horror movies while home alone with my older sister at night and it’s not left any lasting psychological scars on me. If anything, it got the need for blood and gore out of my system early on and I no longer care for slasher movies.
Blade III isn’t *Aliens *or *The Shining *though and unless given a reason to believe otherwise, I trust a parent knows more about his child’s limitations than a random stranger does.
I don’t use emoticons that often and don’t use that particular one at all.
While being a parent doesn’t automatically imbue you with the answers to how to raise a kid, neither does being an adult and observing behaviour you yourself don’t find appropiate.
Ignoring that, the kid obviously wasn’t screaming or otherwise showing he was upset he was upset as the OP didn’t comment on it and instead focused on their bad manners. I doubt the kid was the least bit harmed by the experience.
Good lord, Aes, you’ve got to be kidding. There’s a reason that movie’s not G rated. It’s not for kiddies. A parent who takes a kid to a movie like that has shit for brains. If Dad wants to go see it, fine and dandy, but he should cough up for a sitter and leave the kid home.
(One of my kids got so terrorized by a pre-release screening of Flight of the Navigator at the Disney studio, at about the same age, that I realized we’d made a big mistake accepting the invitation to go see it, and that picture wasn’t in the same league as the Blade series.)
**BIG **difference between being safe in your own home, watching the movie on the TV, where you can tell it’s not real and you can get up and leave any time, and being in a movie theater where the scary stuff is not only 20+ feet high but inescapable.
Whatever.
I was raised on horror movies from the age of about seven. Not comic-book stuff like (I imagine) Blade is, either. Horror/Supernatural/Slasher stuff. Most of it at drive-ins, in the beginning. By the time I started going to theatres, I had been properly socialized to sit quietly and watch the movie. I recall seeing, between the ages of 7 and 11, Carrie, Halloween, The Omen, Piranha, Coma, The Amityville Horror, Jaws, Motel Hell, The Shining, The Fog, Silent Scream, Alien, Outland, Friday the Thirteenth, and a ton of other less memorable splatter/suspense films.
You know, it did me no harm. I was given to understand the concept of “make-believe.” I only remember one film that actually stuck with me for a bit: The Swarm. That one hit a nerve, because bees were real, my backyard was full of them, I’d been stung before, and I fully bought into the idea of huge swarms of angry bees. I think I may have heard of “Africanized” bees in real life, too-- either at school (grade 2) or on the news. I had a couple of nightmares about bees after that.
Apart from that, the only effect that a steady diet of horror movies had on me was that by the time I was thirteen or fourteen, I was thoroughly bored of horror movies, and I had to know it was a really good one before I’d watch it.
I think the idea that scary stuff is poison for children is ridiculous. The most treasured bedtime stories of the past three hundred years make Hollywood spook tales seem fluffy-bunny. “‘My mother killed me, my father picked my bones, my dear brother buried me under the marble stones.’ Good night, dear heart.”
Do you have kids? It’s not “A” movie, it’s a series of ways of incorrect thinking while raising a kid which INCLUDES taking kids to age inappropriate movies.
The idea behind being a parent, a GOOD one anyway, is that you use your judgment to protect them the best you can, you don’t just “trust” the judgment of a child, otherwise, three year old everywhere would be ODing on chocolate.
Oh for God Sake, so, making sure that kids see age appropriate entertainment is “treating them like fragile eggshells”? Obviously you’ve never dealt with a really heinous bout of night terrors.
Did you read a different OP than the rest of us did? The OP didn’t interfere in anything.