Inspired by the discussion in this thread, I was wondering what five skills you find most attractive in prospective partners. If possible I’d like to keep this thread about practical skills (such as cooking or DIY, for instance) rather than attributes like, say, kindness or intelligence or anything like that. I know there’s some overlap between skills and attributes. After all, is being funny a skill, an attribute, or a bit of both? So use your best judgement if you’re not sure. Also, speaking of being funny, I’ll take it for granted that everyone would rather be with someone with a sense of humour than without, so there’s no need to put that one. The same applies to…well, y’know
Anyway, I’m a straight guy and my top five sexiest skills in a woman are:
1). Good cook. I’m a decent(ish) cook but I wouldn’t want to be doing it every night.
2). Aptitude for a sport. I run for an hour a day without fail and any prospective partner would need to be understanding about that, and I think they’re more likely to be so if they play a sport themselves.
3). A good head for money. I am hopeless with money. Someone a bit more sensible in this regard would help keep me from bankrupting myself
4). Artistic aptitude, be it painting, writing, music or anything else, is incredibly sexy.
5). An ability to hold her own in an argument. I like talking politics, religion etc…and anyone who can give me a run for my money in such conversations earns my instant admiration.
It would be good if they have this skill but never turn it on you- however, that is rarely the case. You WILL be the target sooner or later.
For me, in no particular order: (As a woman who prefers men)
1)good at oral sex. All men think they are good at it, but few are. You’ve got to have skills!
2)working on cars. I don’t expect you to be a mechanic, but you need to know something. Don’t make me take it to the shop just for a minor thingamajig replacement.
3)cooking, at least for yourself. If you’re going to act like a baby if I’m not there to cook your dinner, then fuck off.
4)cleaning. It’s not woman’s work. Do your share.
5)being able to find places. I have no sense of direction, so if you don’t either, then we’re screwed.
That’s some grade A bullshit there Alice. I’m a big guy and can handle myself in a fight. I’ll be sure to let my gf know that “sooner or later” she’ll be the target of said ability.
Mm, yes, not over-reactive or aggressive at all, are you? But it wasn’t “can handle themselves in a fight” really, it was about being “good at intimidating others”.
I’m good at intimidating others, I worked as a bouncer for years part time and worked security for the Chicago Cubs. Fuck you for implicating me in domestic violence.
I will say that your posts here give no indication that you might be the sort to fly off the handle over something relatively innocuous and in no way act as an example of what Alice was saying, so there’s that.
Your premise is flawed. I do not find it overreacting to call someone on such an inflammatory, stereotypical, and hurtful smear. Turning around and crying overreaction to legitimate criticism is what I expect from the “war on Christmas” types, not here.
Unless you also believe that anyone who is “good at kicking ass OR intimidating others” WILl invariably turn that on you(their romantic partner). In that case post #8 goes equally for you.
Exactly. I’ve seen lots of people who can give a good verbal beat down that one might cheer if it’s on your side, but not so much if it in turn is directed at you.
You mentioned “find attractive” in your OP. It seems like that’s more what you’re going for in 1 to 3 on your list rather than “sexy”, especially when taking into account the reasons you give for them.
1.) Being good at problem solving and adaptability. If I’m stranded in some fashion, I don’t want to deal with someone who only sits around, mopes and makes our situation worse. Get off your ass and help me build this boat, Gilligan.
2.) I’m on board with the cleaning / cooking thing. I ain’t now maid or slave, and if you’re over the age of eight, you should be able to spot what needs to be done (laundry, dusting, making a grocery list) and get on it. Those things don’t happen in a vacuum and we don’t have the money for a nanny.
3.) Having a good sense of humor. Being stuck with an over-sensitive clod who thinks fart jokes are the height of hilarity is its own special hell. Put in a little effort and everyone will be amused instead of rolling their eyes or looking at the clock.
4.) Another vote for creative in some way. That translates to a lot whenever your SO can make you a gift on the fly, entertain a group of folks spontaneously or simply offer purpose when other things seem slow / rocky / boring / whatever.
5.) Compassionate about stuff. This pretty much covers everything else. If you find this guy, send him to me. I’ll be in my bunk waiting for him.
Don’t say this to other posters anywhere on this board, this is a warning. Now everyone, take the argument about this to the Pit. Anyone posting heated discussion about this again in this thread will get a warning.
