Woman, I like guys. And when it comes to “partner requirements”, I’m very, very traditional - traditionally Basque, that is.
Listening. Not just hearing but listening. If I need to take a detour through Vietnam to explain something, suck it up, I’ll do the same for you. I’m a “yes means yes, no means no, silence means I’m looking for a polite way to tell you that’s the dumbest idea I’ve ever heard” kind of person, please don’t look for hidden meanings.
Being able to take care of himself and others. If I’m sick, can he keep the family fed by a method not involving TelePizza? Can he keep us in clean clothes and the dust bunnies from getting bigger than the sofa?
Since I’ve got a “thing” about electrical work, being able to do it is a huge plus.
Talk nerdy to me… or discuss nerdy stuff with me… or heck, let’s just discuss anything, picking nits keeps the brain sharp
Able to distribute work in whichever way happens to be best for us, which may or may not be the way it worked for his parents or mine or the way the movies say we should do it. If it turns out I’m better at XYZ, then I do it and he doesn’t get to pout about “but it’s the husband’s job!” (dude, let me explain the concept of etxekoandre* to you, and then we’ll start on “sexism”…). If it turns out he’s better at XYZ, then he does it and doesn’t get to moan about having to do it.
“Woman of/owning the house” in Basque. I did say I’m very Basque when it comes to this stuff…
1: Knows how to cook from scratch with versatile ingredients and it tastes as intended.
2: Musically Inclined and generally good enough at it so that we can drink beers and play together on occasion.
3: Ability to have fun with any activity be it riding bikes on a trail, camping, or even sipping tea by the fire without the sensation of being bored/distracted/annoyed.
4: Having an interesting and useful hobby, like horticulture/gardening or Programming in Flash/Javascript.
Not me. I’d rather set expectations as low as possible.
Like during a power outage, when the power company says it’ll be restored in an hour but then the lights come back on five minutes later. But sort of the opposite. All I’m saying is, five minutes can be impressive if you frame it the right way.
This actually describes my views really well. It’s not important to me from a sexual attraction point of view if a woman can Do Things (other than sexual stuff.) In fact, I’d probably be more turned on by the helpless type. It’s important to me from a non-sexual attraction perspective that my mate be able to Do Things.
My wife often gets, “you should be a professional decorator!” type comments from visitors to our home. She also smart and very good at her job, an excellent violinist, and a skilled graphic artist. She’s a good cook in the sense that she can follow a recipe card and turn out a tasty meal. She’s also a self-starter, and driven to Get Things Done (which complements my more laid-back approach to everything nicely.) These are all excellent qualities for a life partner, but none of them are sexy. I reserve that descriptor for her other qualities.
