Personally, I thought the “safe sex” comment was hilarious!
I am in the “dump him” corner. But only if he’s a habitual non-show-up kind of guy. If this is his first offense, I’d bitch him out and get on with the relationship.
Another piece of advice…don’t take his phone calls anymore. He’s dumped, let him stay dumped, and you start cracking on those law books!
I can’t screen my calls. 
As a poor law student I can afford neither Caller ID nor an answering machine. Oh well.
You could’ve expressly told him NOT to call you. Instead, you told him he could.
That said, you can still hang up on him when you pick up and realize it’s him. Do it consistently and he’ll get the idea. But will you hang up on him?
Thirty bucks says he doesn’t stay dumped.
$40 says he does.
And then there’s your sig, dear.
Oh ye of little Dave Matthews, Sprittle. That is a line from “Say Goodbye”, a song about a one night stand. I hardly think it applies here. Maybe “Halloween” but certainly not “Say Goodbye”.
Geez guys, way to cheer her on . . . betting against her and pointing out why you think she’ll fail. She told him to call her back when he thought he could behave like a man – but it’s still her call on whether he’s acting like one if he DOES call.
tramp, my money’s on YOU!
The “You go, girl!” stuff rings pretty hollow when it’s praising indignant mumbleduckery.
For argument’s sake, howzabout if I were to say, “I was stopped at a traffic light last week when some cretin climbed into my car and asked me to drive him to the nearest supermarket so he could get something to eat. After he did his shopping–it took several hours, not including the nap he took in the back seat–I told him to get the hell out of my car. Boy, howdy, did I tell the guy off good, or what?”
How many “You go, boy!” posts should I expect?
Tramp Sorry for the breakup of your relationship. I know LDR’s can be hard but my friend made his work from Jersey to VA also (Falls Church) then Jersey to MD (Landover) He was in VA/MD and his GF now Fiance is (was) in Jersey. You are better off without a guy like him. Who wants someone who puts going to Sin City East over going to visit his sweetie? I’m sure there are some dopers who would be happy to lend you an answering machine so you don’t have to speak to this lout again. I’m sure there are other dopers who would also be happy to record the outgoing message so whenn the lot calls he is confused.
Thank you for my daily laff.
Actually, tramp, I meant that in your defense! In my short quip (for some reason I believe that shorter posts will get processed by the hamsters faster than a longer post) I had hoped to convey the sentiment that your sig shows an underlying understanding of just what it means to let go, as the song suggests. Sorry I did a crappy job.
While I’m not sure what the future brings for you and BiB, I can understand some concerns about you “leaving the door open.” Only you know if you have the koyekh to keep him out of your life a) forever, b) until he actually has matured a log :rolleyes: (<-- meaning “not bloody likely”)
I sincerely hope you are able to keep him out of your life, house, mind and heart until you find somebody who shows you what a real gentleman, boyfriend, lover is like.
oops. make that “matured a lot.” Sounds like some weird euphemism for pooping.
Sorry Spritle, thanks for clearing that up. But honestly, you should give DMB a try. Everyone should! 
OrcaChow, that’s not in any way analogous to this situation. We’re talking about tramp dumping a jerk boyfriend after she’s had the last straw, not being carjacked by some random intruder. No one ever considers whether to maintain an ongoing relationship with a kidnapper. (Patty Hearst notwithstanding.)
I stand by my support and encouragement of tramp. I know too many people who kept the jerk.
Scarlett67 says:
Nice evasion, but you obviously missed the part of the analogy about aiding and abetting one’s own victimization long before putting one’s foot down. Tramp had the perfect opportunity to be rid of him at the door. Instead, she let him in, fed him (IIRC), and let him hit the bunk for some serious nappy-time. It’s a bit like driving around an unarmed hijacker for hours and many chores before drawing the line.
And I stand by my skepticism.
It’s unlikely that the jerk turned into a jerk overnight. I do wonder how long she kept the jerk before this. If this is the first time he’s gone AWOL, I’d say she seriously overreacted. It’s possible tramp was just looking for an easy out to the LDR.
There’s a good deal of background info missing from this case. Maybe if it doesn’t warrant our kind of skepticism, but it sure as hell doesn’t warrant your kneejerk “You go, girl!” support. There are too many telltale signs of willing victimhood in the story.
Willing victimhood??? Oh now that is some serious bulllllllllllllllllshit.
Great condradiction. In the first quote, you say she should have gotten rid of him sooner (in fact your whole rant is based on her taking too long to dump him IYO). In the second you say that maybe she dumped him too quick. O enlighten us, what is the exact perfect time frame in which to dump someone? Should she dump him the second time he blows her off? The third? The tenth? Should she wait for a baker’s dozen? How does one instantaneously recognize that a guy is being a jerk and will remain a jerk from that point on?
The point is that SHE DID IT. Yeah, sometimes it takes people time to wake up, determine that the relationship isn’t worth working on, decide to go through with it and cut their losses, whatever. Does that mean we should drag them down when they finally do it? Better late than never, I say. I think her responses after the OP sound like she’s pretty determined to move on.
Oh yeah, that’s a realistic scenario. I still say it’s a ridiculous example.
What tramp said, and also why does she deserve to be bashed for taking “too long” (in someone else’s opinion) to get rid of him? Say, here’s a relevant analogy: Maybe we should bitch out battered women who leave their abusers because “You shouldn’t have been letting him beat you for all this time.” Maybe we should place bets (in their presence, yet) on how soon they’ll go back. Way to be helpful and supportive.
And yeah, tramp, just hang up when you hear his voice on the phone. Cold turkey, man. Don’t waste your breath or your time telling him what a creep he is.
Be strong, Tramp. You deserve better. Don’t let the little worm worm his way back.
Actually, she didn’t. Or if she did, she didn’t post it.
What she did post was that she told him to leave her apartment, and not to call till he grew up. This is NOT dumping someone. See, in his head, he’s simply being spanked for being a bad boy. He knows that sooner or later, she will forgive him, and all he has to do is a little penance.
Tramp, I’m with you on this dumping thing, but you must say the words.
You may use this as a script if you like, for the next time he calls.
“Look, it’s over between us. I don’t want you in my life anymore. I deserve better. I don’t want you to call me anymore. We are through.”
Or
“Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: you. Get lost, you loser. I’m moving on.”