Who says I’m only allowed to be bothered by one thing about someone?
As I said, it’s demoralizing to be around her. It was before she got pregnant, and it still is.
Those aren’t things about her, they’re lies you’ve made up about her. They’re not even consistent lies, that’s what makes it so obvious. Despite what you like to tell yourself, she is in fact a human being and she does have feelings. That you refuse to believe this says a lot more about you than it does about her.
I’ll bet she doesn’t think you’re much fun to be around either.
Probably not. I’m there to do work, not make chit chat.
OOE, I get what you’re saying. I’ve worked with many people similar to your coworker. As much as there is part of me who bristles at their situation, the other part gently reminds me that 1) I have no business judging them, and 2) I have better things to do rather than think about than them
Because words mean things, and you seem to be serious. Saying someone isn’t human is saying that you look at her and think she’s more like a chimp or a dog than like you. That’s an appalling thing to believe, if you really do. Dismissing people that lack ambition --even to a remarkable extent–as not human is just really shocking.
If you don’t think that–if you think she’s a person, just a really stupid, passive, pathetic, miserable one–then say that. But deciding, from ten hours of exposure a week, that she isn’t really a person is such an extreme mix of arrogance and lack of empathy on your part that it is jarring.
Based on the behavior I’ve observed in years working with her, I think she’s missing something that allows people to function as self-sustaining members of society. If you’ve never met anyone like this, consider yourself lucky.
So to clarify the OP, you don’t actually want to understand your coworker, but rather you would like other people to join in your looking down on her.
As I said early in the thread, I wanted to know whether it even was a sound financial decision to have babies for extra money - whether the extra benefits offset the extra costs. Posts 36 and 39 at least try to address this.
You’re the one who decided that she’d made an actual decision based on wants and goals. Haven’t you met anyone who simply allows themself to be carried along and be taken care of and have decisions made for them by nature?
Bullshit you did. I could use you as a window, you’re so transparent.
I think people have been assigning unwarranted motives to my coworker. I know this girl, and the people in this thread don’t. Not sure what you expect me to do when people say things I have reason to believe aren’t true.