Well, her chemo has been going on for weeks now. She has just started to lose her hair this saturday.
On the plus side, she has gained 2 pound since the treatments have begun.
The steroids are making her testy, too.
When Dad & I quarrelled recently, she threatened to circumcise me with her electric carving knife. :eek: ;j
Life has turned upside down here at Maison Di’Chi.
My parents have started making a will.
{{{{;j}}}}
Thats great that your mom has managed to put on weight during her ordeal. She, as well as your family are in my prayers.
One thing that was clear when my mom went through this was that she needed to still feel she was a woman. The loss of hair can be very stressful as well as cause such a great loss of self esteem as her body goes through all the changes from the chemo. If I could give you any advice during all this, it would be treat mom as mom, not as mom who is sick. She is just as full of fear as you are.
As for the carving knife… well Moosiegrl is the pro regarding matters related to Lorena Bobbit 
Take Care
Hang in there, kiddo. Chemo, radiation, etc. are no fun at all. It’s hard to be cheerful and upbeat when you feel crappy.
Wishing you all the best. Don’t be too freaked by the will thing. It’s scary, but it’s also common sense. (Better believe I’ve had a will since I was 30 and actually had something to leave. And I keep it updated.)
It’s a traumatic time and a lot of upheaval, but bad times pass. Feeling poorly and stress don’t make for clear thinking, so don’t panic. Just keep plugging along.
I’m so sorry things are chaotic right now. Hang in and give it time.
Beaming good wishes your way,
Veb
First of all, my best wishes for your mother’s continued good health.
I would suggest that you read the article found at:
http://www.pemphigus.org/k_lucey_caregivers.htm
It refers to a different disease, but one which is also treated with steroids. There is also an excellent book called Coping with Prednisone which expands on the changes steroids can make in a persons personality.
Also, should it come to that, I have an excellent connection to a company that specializes in wigs etc. for people going through chemo.
Feel free to email me, and best of luck!
Bosda, hang in there. I hope everything will turn out all right, but in the meantime, all you can do is to be there for your mother (and father, he’s suffering too).
Bosda, :hug:
That’s great that your mom has gained weight! Hang in there, and best wishes to you, your mother and your whole family.
Another “Hang in there” from me, Bosda. Cancer treatments suck but I know you and your mom can get through this. And listen to Canadian Sue. When she said
“If I could give you any advice during all this, it would be treat mom as mom, not as mom who is sick.”
she was speaking truth. From my experience most cancer patients want to live as normal a life as possible.
I’ll be sending your mom healthy thoughts.
Bosda, baby ! I am so glad you checked in and updated us !
Heh, with an electric knife you say ? I think I like her !
I know this is hard, but on the upside she did put on some weight. Know that my fingers and toes are crossed and I’m praying.
{{{{{{{{{Bosda}}}}}}}
Way to go Mom!! I’ve always found a really good threat of bodily harm had a way of handling unruly boys. So what if one is Dad?! All us women know that sometimes the husband is worse than a handful of children.
Best wishes for good health and a speedy recovery for your Mom.
What a great link!
I had no idea.
They saw something on mom’s xray and thought it was an infection in her lung (turned out to be scarring from the radiation) and started her on MASSIVE doses of prednisone. She was on 8 pills a day, and can only taper off by one pill a day per week.
8 pills/day for a week
7/day for a week
6/day etc etc…
The stupid steroids that she didnt even need are making her all swollen and puffy. She hates how she looks, and avoids public places. She has been a bit owly too - okay, totally weird. And she had to take 8 weeks to get off them!
Dan, I wish I knew more about your situation, but I can tell you that everything will be weird, different. It is NOT JUST YOU. People will treat you and your family different because of the cancer. You might feel like you suddenly grew another head. Relatives you never met/hardly know will ask about your Mom, or say how good she looks…
I actually replied once to ‘how’s your mother’ with: ‘Well, except for the cancer, she is fine.’
You will feel guilty for feeling sorry for yourself, but dont. Cancer doesnt just strike one person - it infects the whole family. The whole family lives under the cancer-axe, but are helpless.
It seeps into every corner of your day. Suddenly you notice that every movie and book has a cancer victim dying.
Its everywhere. Dont be afraid to get pissed off about the whole ugly thing.
Thanks, all.
:wally
I know we arent supposed to feed trolls, but FUCK OFF!!!
What is the matter with you?
Why dont you crawl back to rotten.com and find your mama?
This is a real person with real feelings, and his real mother has real fucking cancer!!!
GO AWAY!!!
Daniel, I can’t begin to surmise what it all looks like from your perspective, but to you and your mom and your dad:
Hang in there! We, well I speak for myself only in fact, but I think it’s obvious that we have you in our thoughts!