So the boy and I have known for a while that we were eventually going to get married some day. We talked about the number of guests we might want to invite and whether or not we would have an open bar, etc. Just conjecture really, and we weren’t really planning anything at that point so it was more of a hypothetical than anything else. Then about 6 weeks ago he asked me what I was looking for in an engagement ring and I showed him some pictures of the kind of ring I would like. He hasn’t given it to me yet because he wants to get my parent’s blessing over Thanksgiving (I’ve told him that isn’t necessary but it will make him feel better if he talks to them about it) so while the ring has been chosen and possibly purchased that was not the same thing as a proposal so we didn’t think anything of it. Then last night we started talking and determined that based on the schedules of those people who are most important to our wedding (parents/siblings and the officiant) that our wedding will be on Sunday, August 8th, 2010.
Not “could possibly be” or “might work best on” but our wedding will be held on August 8th. We’ve set the date! There will still be an official proposal sometime between Thanksgiving and Christmas with the ring and all that jazz but it will simply be a formality as we’ve now decided for sure that we will be getting married. Wow, that kind of snuck up on me!
Don’t be surprised if the realization completely blindsides you at some point and seems…well, kind of scary and overwhelming even when you’re happy and excited. Some people freak out when that happens, think it means there’s something wrong with them or the relationship or the wedding plans, but it’s totally normal for any kind of impending major life change.
Remember that, and when your family is driving you nuts remember that ankle shackles will totally ruin the line of your dress so don’t kill 'em.
I have never been so happy that all of my family lives so far away in all my life! His mom lives close by and will probably insist on helping but she is easy to distract so I’m not worried about it. Now I have to start figuring out the rest of the details. Any dopers out there in the NYC area photographers, caterers, or otherwise involved in wedding related industries?
Many congratulations! But August. . .ugh. Unless you live in a very temperate climate, make sure you have plans that don’t involve being too hot. (I cannot even imagine wearing a wedding gown and accompanying undergarments in August heat here on the east coast. . .)
Still, marrying the right man is one of the smartest things I’ve ever done!
Yeah. If you’re getting married in August, please don’t have an outdoors wedding. Your guests will never remember the ceremony. The only thing they’ll remember about it is that they were miserable the whole time.
I really kinda think that you should get married not on that Sunday, but on the following Monday. Yeah, Monday’s a crap day for a wedding, but then your anniversary will be 8/9/10 (at least in US date reckoning). Easy to remember!
Myself, I got married on August 5, and my parents married on August 10. August is a great month for weddings! And I had an outdoor wedding (kinda) on a boat - it can work. We were concerned about rain, actually, but it cleared up in time for the ceremony.
@CrazyCatLady: Fortunately, ankle shackles won’t mess up bridesmaid or MotB dresses, partly because if those dresses are done right people pay little attention to them. There’s only one woman they’re watching closely, and she’s usually the one in the poufy white gown.
