Several times recently waitresses have asked me as they picked up the payment for my meal if I wanted my change. WTF? Sometimes they hadn’t even opened the presenter to see how much I had put in there. I might have put in a $100 bill on a $10 check.
No, I’m not leaving you a 900% tip!
Perhaps they think that by asking this question they’ll get a bigger tip, by cowing people into giving them the entire difference. If so, this is manipulative and rude. Perhaps they just don’t understand the presumption implicit in the question.
Twice I’ve tried to explain why it is a presumptuous and rude question, and have suggested that it would be more appropriate just to say, “I’ll bring you your change.” Then, if he wished, the customer could volunteer, “No that’s okay. Keep it.” A more pleasant experience for everyone, IMO.
The first time I think the waitress got the idea, but today’s waitress just stood there gawking and didn’t seem to understand what I was talking about. Nor was she particularly gracious about receiving what I offered as polite and helpful advice.
If this is going to become a service-based economy, people need to get a better idea of what service is.