I just read something on Organ donation in GQ that prompted this:
My daughter was born this past October.
Because of an irregularity she was delivered by Caesarian.
As they were prepping my wife, I waited outside the OR in my scrubs until I could go in and witness the birth.
While this was going on a man also in scrubs, clearly a Dr. approached. He was not my wife’s Dr.
Then I was called in. I saw my daughter delivered by my wife’s Dr. (who also happens to be one of my best friends.) It was marvelous. My daughter was perfect, and my wife was brave and strong.
Though I hadn’t cried since before I was a teenager, I cried then. Tears of happiness. I was overpowered by what had just occured.
After it was done and they were preparing to move my wife into the recovery room, they suggested gently that I wait outside the OR (so I wouldn’t be in the way.)
I went outside and the Dr. guy was there again.
“Mr. ___?” he asked.
“Yes.”
“Have you considered organ donation in the event your child does not survive?” His EXACT words.
I breathed deep and the words came out. Again exactly as I spoke them. Low and careful. “Right now I am celebrating the birth of my daughter. Ask me later.”
The Dr. nodded, but said nothing. He was around in the general area for the next 15 minutes or so until it became clear that my daughter was perfectly healthy (my supposition,) and then he left.
He never asked me again.
When I had time to think a little later, I became absolutely furious with this Doctor. How dare he intrude. He was obviously waiting there in the hopes that my daughter would die. He wanted to gut her and rip her apart for her internal organs, right then and there!
At this most sublimely beautiful moment in my life, he appeared, like a ghoul. I should have strangled him on the spot.
A few days later when we had gotten home from the hospital I told my wife the story.
“Maybe he was there becasue a baby was dying,” she said.
Then of course, it hit me.
What if it had been our daughter? What if she was dying because she needed a transplant. I know what I would want. I would want Dr.s standing by, ready, at the birth of every potential donor. I would want them to be prepared for every possibility to save my daughter. I wouldn’t care about whose feelings they hurt doing so. My daughter’s life would be far to important for such concerns.
That Dr. must have known exactly what he was doing when he asked me that question. He must have been aware of the pain that it would cause me, the monstrous innapropriateness of it. He asked anyway. He wasn’t there to take my daughter. He was there on the off chance he might be able to save a life.
If it had been the other way around I would want Dr.s with the willful insensitivity to ask that question.
I donate blood not to help others, but because it gives me and my family precedence if we should ever need blood.
I am an organ donor because by the time they come for my organs they will be no good to me anyway.
I copied this post from someone in GQ. I know you are not supposed to copy posts in there entirety, but I’m gonna break this rule because quite frankly I’m too disgusted to reply to the poster. For that same reason I won’t identify who I copied it from (though I suppose you can find it if you look
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In Virginia, blood donors get paid $130.00. Some places have Plasma donor centers,
they pay.
Also aren't sperm and ova paid for?
This being national donor (sucker) awareness week, I made out my Will to specificy my
body parts are not to be donated, but if my brother gets an offer in six figures to
consider selling.
My family is against organ giving anyway, but if one of them ever gets weak in the
head and starts thinking of being 'good willed' I will refuse to honour any such notion.
Let these people who wail about organ shortages start paying.
Pennsylvania is thinking of paying the donor's family $300.00 and telling them what
they may or may not spend it on.
Heck with that.
Want my organs? If they are in good condition be willing to pony up $100,000.00 for a
kidney and lots more for the heart."
I live in PA BTW.
Anybody care to guess what my debate is?
“Don’t just stand there in Uffish thought!”
-The Caterpillar